I used to frown upon people that were too “gay”, too effeminate, too loud, too performative of their sexuality because I thought that those were the things holding us back.
I thought assimilating would lead to acceptance from the cis-het world.
I thought assimilating would lead to acceptance from the cis-het world.
But I soon realised that the LGBTQIAAP+ community was never the issue. It is not us that needs to change.
I realised what I was experiencing was a self-hate drilled into me for as long as I could remember.
I realised what I was experiencing was a self-hate drilled into me for as long as I could remember.
I realised that the more I tried to assimilate. The more I remained silent. The more I watched other LGBTQIAAP+ people get ostracised for being themselves - the more empty I was becoming.
It took years of unlearning & rebuilding to get to a point where I could accept myself in spite of others.
Those years could have been better spent building on a foundation of acceptance rather than to begin building that foundation in my adulthood.
Those years could have been better spent building on a foundation of acceptance rather than to begin building that foundation in my adulthood.
And once I started my journey of acceptance in the face of societal rejection I encountered my next great challenge:
Cis-homosexual white people.
Cis-homosexual white people.
Cis-homosexual white people have been one of my biggest issues within the LGBTQIAAP+ community.
They were the first to be accepted by society. The first to be accurately portrayed in mainstream media.
THE EASIEST FOR SOCIETY TO STOMACH.
They were the first to be accepted by society. The first to be accurately portrayed in mainstream media.
THE EASIEST FOR SOCIETY TO STOMACH.
For all that growth, appreciation & acceptance; cis-homosexual ytpipo turn on LGBTQIAAP+ people of colour and treat us like secondary citizens of our sexulities & genders.
They establish the exact same ideologies of white feminism.
They establish the exact same ideologies of white feminism.
Cis-homosexual ytpipo have continued to push LGBTQIAAP+ people of color into a minority within our minority.
Further perpetuating the rejection thrust upon us by society. Because we can be queer & black but not too much of both.
Further perpetuating the rejection thrust upon us by society. Because we can be queer & black but not too much of both.
It is a new kind of pain when you are not accepted within your own minority group. A group that preaches peace & love but still wants to uphold a hierarchy based on race and class. #pridemonth
This #pridemonth has been the most beautiful because I can finally articulate all of this without being tongue tied or defensive.
I can say it with my chest and know that I am not alone. #truth #pridemonth2018
I can say it with my chest and know that I am not alone. #truth #pridemonth2018
