One of the biggest lies society has convinced us to accept is that a woman loses allure and sexiness once she reaches a certain age. But there are far too many examples of women owning their beauty & power well into their elder years for us to accept this as fact. #SeniorSaturday
I am not merely talking about celebrities, I'm talking about average every day women who embody intangible sexiness and exude sensuality. Why is that? Because they understand that being sexy is more than physical appearance. #SeniorSaturday
The Village Auntie exists because of the image of powerful, strong, SEXY women in the community, elder women, who taught me secrets and modeled for me what it meant to be a woman who owns her femininity and sex appeal. #SeniorSaturday
So let's start with a simple fact: Older women have sex. Our mothers have sex. Our grandmothers have sex. Good sex. And that's okay. It's how we got here. #SeniorSaturday
People don't like it when I talk about grandmothers having sex, but the elders I know all thank me. We erase a whole segment of womanhood when we deny the right of sexual pleasure and sensuality for those 60 and above. #SeniorSaturday
There is a release of inhibition that can come when you reach a certain age. Although body acceptance can be a lifelong journey, it can, and often does, lessen as a woman gets older. But this is not to say that older women cannot also have bodies which fit society standards.
And my older clients have noted a decrease in sexual inhibition, esp when worries about pregnancy are no longer a factor. They also note an increased sense of adventure in the bedroom brought on by a need to keep an active sex life, esp w/in the context of long-term relationships
But there are some actual health concerns that some older women may face. Vaginal atrophy (atrophic vaginitis) is a term for the thinning, drying and inflammation of the vaginal walls. It is caused by a reduction in estrogen. #SeniorSaturday
Vaginal atrophy can be temporarily remedied through the use of topical estrogen creams or herbal based formulas. Water-based lubricants can also work wonders to relieve the dryness associated with vaginal atrophy. #SeniorSaturday
I recommend the use of toys, flavored lube, and new sex positions for older clients who want to increase sexual pleasure. Remember: women require more sexual variety to achieve orgasm. Variety, in this case, means positions, techniques, & intensity of penetration. #SeniorSaturday
A technique that I use with all women that has brought elder women success is kunyaza. It is a traditional East African technique used to cause female ejaculation. Since it is sourced from the Skene's glands, even women w/vaginal atrophy can find success with it.
The best techniques that I have learned were taught to me by women 70 years old and older. Kunyaza is one of them. #SeniorSaturday
Breast stimulation is another under utilized method for assisting in increasing libido and enhanced foreplay. Breast tissue may lose elasticity and buoyancy but they do not necessarily lose sensation. #SeniorSaturday
Masterful stimulation of the nipple and areola is a skill that is a must for the foreplay toolbox. The breasts are directly connected to the womb. With the right amount of pressure and arousal, nipple stimulation can assist in increased natural lubrication. #SeniorSaturday
