You should ask why anyone defaults to whiteness in their intimate relationships.
"But I went to, ya know, a very white school"
"Well, I dont really feel accepted by Black people"
Yeah. I stopped believing those copouts a long time ago.
Hmm.
Not on theory.
Not in outrage when we get killed.
Intimate space with Black friends means you have to reconcile with LIVING BREATHING Black people in real life.
And you don't know how.
Cool. Now ask deeper questions.
-Is there a pattern in my circles?
-Do I gravitate towards white people in diverse rooms?
-Do I get uncomfortable when I hear other Black people being loud in public places?