Thread by @sarahmei

For the most part, I really value the conversations I have around my threads. Getting feedback is an integral part of the writing process for me.

People make interesting recommendations, tell me about other directions they’ve seen that thought process go in, etc. Mostly A++++!

But there’s a particular variety of entitlement that sometimes crops up that I find reeeeally grating.

I’m not talking about the braindead replies from the troll packs - those are easily giffed & muted, and I could do that all day😅

The ones that really annoy me are the men who are clearly used to women being VERY INTERESTED in how they feel. Like I had one yesterday who said my thread “had a promising start but then disappointed me.”

My dude....I do not give a single fuck about your disappointment level

If there’s something you think is missing, you could just...say that.

“Hey, have you thought about [tangentisl idea]? Seems very related! Would love your thoughts.”

I am sometimes disappointed by a thread. This can happen, because other people are not me, & they think in different ways than I expect.

But I literally cannot imagine a situation in which it would seem relevant or appropriate to ACTUALLY TELL THE AUTHOR about my disappointed state.

Anyway thanks to those of you who contribute to the conversation in ways that don’t set my teeth on edge❤️