Thread by @ArmaniTalks

'Nice guys' are often created from too much logic.

They see human interactions solely thru a logical eye.

These people genuinely think that the nicer you are to others, the more they will like you.

Wrong.

The nicer you are to others, the more they will take advantage of you.

'Huh?? Now, wait a minute! You sure about this?'

Positive.

'How do you know?'

Because I was once the nice guy...

And believe it or not, a lot of people you know were once the 'nice guy.'

It is a needed stage in a person's life.

'Why?'

Because it gives you a crash course on human nature.

'You mentioned something about nice guys being born from too much logic. Can you elaborate?'

Sure.

It's time for a social dynamics 101 lesson 👇

It all begins with how we learn.

If you think about it, we have been learning thru a logical lens all our lives.

You study some subjects, do homework & take a test.

Sound familiar?

'Yea..'

But how often are you taught about emotions & creativity growing up?

'Rarely, if ever.'

Exactly!

That is why you have a predominant logical lens in the first place.

'What's wrong with logic though?'

Nothing is wrong with logic.

But understand, that there is always a time & place for everything.

Logic is great for understanding math.

Logic is awful for understanding humans.

'Why is that?'

Because humans are NOT logical creatures.

They are emotional creatures to the core.

Which is where the nice guy comes in.

-They have the right heart, but the wrong mindset.

They genuinely believe being nice & a pushover will earn them more praise.

In a logical world, it would.

But in the real world, it only earns them ridicule & resentment.

Conscious mind - Logical Thinking mind
Subconscious mind - Illogical Feeling mind

The nice guy only speaks to a human's conscious mind.

So yes, they may technically be doing all the right things.

But the other human doesn't FEEL comfortable around the nice guy.

Somethings off

And all this happens because you think with your head too much.

But humans don't work like that..

In order to understand humans, you need to lead with emotions & creativity.

'Can I still change?'

Yes.

This thread was meant to bring awareness into why you behave the way you do.

And that's because: You are 'nice' because you treat humans with a logical lens.

Once you understand the 'why' behind what you do, changing is much smoother.

From here on out, bring awareness when you're being too nice.

Once you become aware, your mind rechannels to the present.

By being present, you will stop thinking so much & just interact.

Remember...

Humans are social creatures to the core, so we are our best social selves when we think LESS.

The nice guy is not natural, it is the byproduct of overthinking.

Just keep staying aware & interacting with more humans & the niceness will melt away.

After a while, you'll feel like yourself in social interactions

At that point, you'll know the nice guy is a thing of the past

You'll free liberated once more

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