It's something I used to not let myself feel. I had a million excuses.
It's a waste of time and energy
Your life is actually really good, what do you actually have to be angry about
You have no right to be mad about that
Anger, like anything else you feel, is an emotion. You have a right to your emotions.
What you don't have is an excuse or a right to intentionally hurt someone because of those emotions.
This is especially true of anger.
But that's not how feelings work. Especially not anger. Anger doesn't just go away.
You find yourself angry an things you otherwise wouldn't be angry about. And if you're avoiding anger, the effect compounds over time. Like shitty interest.
It was hard.
You know what's less unpleasant than sadness? Anger. Almost everyone would rather be angry than sad.
Hence the 3 a.m. feels thread. It's been keeping me up nights.
So I finally am. And it feels wretched. Anger was much less unpleasant, in its way.
Wish me luck.
Righteous anger, even acknowledged and confronted, can be truly insidious. Feeling so entitled to and... correct about your anger makes dealing with the underlying emotions more unappealing--and thus more difficult.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk.