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Married folks, and singles who are looking to get married.
Do you know how to fight?
Do you know how to fight?
How you argue/fight will either strengthen or weaken your marriage.
2 tips about conflict in Marriage.
Avoid the tendency to speak to your Significant other like a parent to a child.
Saying for example -
You cannot buy the IPhone! Or
You Must buy the Pixel! in an argument will yield a defensive response
Avoid the tendency to speak to your Significant other like a parent to a child.
Saying for example -
You cannot buy the IPhone! Or
You Must buy the Pixel! in an argument will yield a defensive response
Why?
Because they’re authoritative messages. It’s the way a parent would speak to a child, or how someone in authority would handle a subordinate.
In an argument, I t’s more effective to communicate with tones and words that affirms your spouse as an adult and an equal.
Because they’re authoritative messages. It’s the way a parent would speak to a child, or how someone in authority would handle a subordinate.
In an argument, I t’s more effective to communicate with tones and words that affirms your spouse as an adult and an equal.
A tip I have heard and learnt (don’t remember where from now) is to start your point with “I feel”.
So I would say, “I feel you don’t take me serious when I say don’t buy an iPhone”.
Obviously a good Ibadan boy like me can still misuse this and say “I feel you are silly” 😒😒
So I would say, “I feel you don’t take me serious when I say don’t buy an iPhone”.
Obviously a good Ibadan boy like me can still misuse this and say “I feel you are silly” 😒😒
But the point is, try to communicate in ways that don’t make your significant other feel belittled or attacked.
2nd Tip is Calm down!
Don’t tell the other person to calm down.
You calm down.
Don’t tell the other person to calm down.
You calm down.
keep your emotions from escalating.
If A interrupts B and talks more loudly to get their point across, emotions will soon spill over, and hurtful words will be spoken.
Stay calm, ask questions, and listen.
When your spouse feels as though they’ve been heard, they’ll calm down
If A interrupts B and talks more loudly to get their point across, emotions will soon spill over, and hurtful words will be spoken.
Stay calm, ask questions, and listen.
When your spouse feels as though they’ve been heard, they’ll calm down
Handled correctly, good conflict in a Godly home can strengthen your relationships
“Speaking recklessly is like the thrusts of a sword, but the words of the wise bring healing.”
Proverbs 12:18 NET
bible.com/107/pro.12.18.…
Proverbs 12:18 NET
bible.com/107/pro.12.18.…
