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Now that I’m all emotionally torqued up and have had $12 worth of $4 beers, I’m just going to go with it.
Whenever my son is sick or injured and not with me, it breaks me a little. It fractures me.
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Whenever my son is sick or injured and not with me, it breaks me a little. It fractures me.
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It’s not that I don’t know that he’ll be okay. He will. The flu passes. Sprains heel. Tomorrow will come and I’ll pick him up and there will be movies on the sofa and that comfortable fleece blanket and he’ll heal.
Me though... it wounds me. Until he’s with me, it wounds me.
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Me though... it wounds me. Until he’s with me, it wounds me.
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When I first separated, we had 50-50 custody. Split the weeks. Alternated weekends.
We’d meet at the bagel place to exchange our son.
I’d walk out the door feeling the momentarily relief of being “off duty”.
Then I’d get in my car and cry.
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We’d meet at the bagel place to exchange our son.
I’d walk out the door feeling the momentarily relief of being “off duty”.
Then I’d get in my car and cry.
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If you’re a parent doing those handoffs, oh, how I see you.
Oh, how I know what that’s like.
If you’re a parent who turns on the TV to drown out the silence, oh, how I know that hurt.
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Oh, how I know what that’s like.
If you’re a parent who turns on the TV to drown out the silence, oh, how I know that hurt.
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I was so deeply afraid that I’d end up with every other weekend.
The hardest part of a divorce with kids isn’t losing a spouse. It’s losing time with your kids.
If you’re a parent who sees your kids less than you want, oh, how I see you.
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The hardest part of a divorce with kids isn’t losing a spouse. It’s losing time with your kids.
If you’re a parent who sees your kids less than you want, oh, how I see you.
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If you’re a parent raising your children despite their other parent instead of with them, oh, how I see you.
But as I’ve been told many times “It only takes one healthy parent.”
Let it be you.
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But as I’ve been told many times “It only takes one healthy parent.”
Let it be you.
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Above all, if you are a divorced or separated parent, if you know the grief of holidays apart, moments missed, stories heard but not seen, oh, how I see you.
Oh, how I see you.
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Oh, how I see you.
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If you’re newly separated or divorced, take heart.
Life offers us opportunities even when imperfect.
Make their favorite meal on the night they come home. Make a tradition of it. Live fully in the times they’re with you. Quality is so very much more important than quantity.
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Life offers us opportunities even when imperfect.
Make their favorite meal on the night they come home. Make a tradition of it. Live fully in the times they’re with you. Quality is so very much more important than quantity.
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There will be moments when it hurts.
There will be times when you wish it were different.
The story of your relationship with your children is written in the moments together no matter how hard the moments apart.
I know this much is true.
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There will be times when you wish it were different.
The story of your relationship with your children is written in the moments together no matter how hard the moments apart.
I know this much is true.
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