It can work. It does work, sometimes.
It works great... right up until it doesn't.
You know the guys who get really offended when they find out that women text a friend their license plate, or have check ins, or don't want to meet them in private for the first time?
Same thing with the trolls who will get bored and move on vs. the ones who will escalate if ignored.
In fact, skip the "because".
It's their choice every time.
Often made before you do anything.
You shouldn't have to do that.
I don't fit anyone's algorithms or categories.
I can't teach anyone how to do that and I don't know why I'd want to. Again, you shouldn't have to do it.
It's their choice to harass.
It's always their choice.
I can't choose not to be harassed.
Instead, take a moment.
But it can mitigate the feeling that you have no control over what's happening, that you're cornered.
So carve out a moment of time and space where you can look at the situation and listen to your instincts.
But it can help you deal with it.
The dynamics completely change in ways that abstract advice-givers can't reckon on at the point when your info is up on a forum somewhere and people with no connection to the original information are coming in, in waves. In shfits.