1. Knowing who you are speaking to.
2. Listening
'What about speaking?'
If you can't get the first 2 right, then your speaking will always fall flat.
If you can get the first 2 right, then speaking will be effortless.
'Pinky promise?'
Uh...yea, pinky promise.
'So what do I do?'
Focus on the 2 I mentioned on the list...👇
'Yea plz do. Always been curious about that.'
It causes anxiety because it has you being a lil fake.
So you stay in your head more, THINKING of shit to say.
All to 'wow' the people.
'Are people impressed?'
Nah, not really.
Their conscious mind may have no clue.
But their subconscious mind can tell.
Which is why they get an off vibe from you.
'Dang you're describing me to the tee.'
I know, because I was once you.
Until my strategy changed.
Your ego is LYING to you.
Don't take the bait.
Rather, use your compassion to understand someone else's ego.
Every human is different.
When you lead the interaction with that understanding, your paradigm shifts.
You try to understand the person in front of you.
Cocky?
Confident? Etc
Try to analyze based off the persons body language & what they talk about.
But as you immerse yourself in more social interactions, you'll build social awareness & social intuition.
Knowing the personality type will become much easier.
☆Curiosity will allow your mind to fit the puzzle peices quicker.
☆Lack of judgment will allow you to be present & see the person for who they are.
Remember:
☆hearing is physical.
☆listening is mental.
Most hear & a few listen.
'English please!'
That means it's going to require effort from your end.
You're not going to be as inclined to keep planning the next thing you are going to say.
Want to know a secret?
'Yea sure.'
The best speaking is an unconscious act, not a conscious one.
It's an autopilot act.
But when you put so much focus on yourself, you turn this autopilot act into work.
No need.
Now speaking will go back to being an Unconscious act.
You'll reach social flow state
Charisma awaits
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