Thread by @xkeepah

Witnessed (by which I mean "stood in the hallway staring, mouth agape") a "conversation" between a woman (employee?) and man (boss?), in which the latter was basically having a temper tantrum about... something.

The guy was Very Upset, raising his voice, gesticulating, accusing the other person of ... making him look dumb? Some other stuff, I guess? Also stuff like "do you want to just throw down right here", etc.

I don't recall the specifics of that conversation other than I was honestly worried it was going to go beyond assault and into actual battery, but also a real great example of toxic, narcissistic management.

On some level I was hoping that my unabashed gawking at the spectacle that guy was making might clue him in that maybe you should not be acting like a toddler to your employee in a public hallway, but as best I can tell that guy was far too dense to consider that

His behavior during what I saw reminded me /extremely/ much of my own mother, who pulled much of the same sort of narcissistic tricks; projection, threatening, making it all about /them/ and how you've wronged /them/ personally, trying to instigate a fight

Once the guy noticed I was gawking at him from about 30 feet down the hallway: "You need something?"

no

"Eavesdropping?"

yeah

though it isn't really eavesdropping if i'm standing in the same hallway you are, in the open, listening to you shout about how angry you are

idk that whole thing was just super... offputting. i really wanted to say something but i was concerned that the raging toddler might pull something

one thing the guy said was along the lines of "you were supposed to do [], that's what i hired you for"

inherent problem with douche managers: they can just hire replacements for people that leave/quit/get fired, and the real problem (toxic asshole) never gets solved