Here is that story.
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For a while we focused on France simply because our youngest daughter was in a dual immersion program at he public school that was french.
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We put it on hold due to commitments with our local church that typically last about 5 years.
Then life happened.
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Thinking we had to move, we started looking for places nearby. Nothing felt right.
Then my wife had the crazy idea that we should explore on overseas experience.
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She mentioned it to a friend. Told her about the France experience. The friend said "You should go to New Zealand!"
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10 days later we had plane tickets.
We had never been to New Zealand. We didn't know how it would work. We had NO idea about the massive amount of work it would take.
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But my wife is super cool with uncertainty. She is super cool with feeling that we should go a certain direction and at the same time having no idea how it will work out.
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In other words, she is super cool with reality.
Step into the dark. Have faith that things will work out.
So we did that.
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We have learned that kids are way better at this then we think. It is often our fear and anxiety about the situation that carries of to the kids. They we say "oh I'd do that if my kids were younger or older or..."
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But I have also found that it the adults that are scared and we use the kids as an excuse. I say that gently, and with no certainty of is broad application.
Just an observation based on my experience.
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This was not a retirement or vacation. We needed to keep working to afford this. That was scary! Super scary.
But my wife keep gently walking into the adventure of uncertainty.
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Where is the petrol (gas) station?
What do you mean the store is closed?
What is tomato sauce and where's the ketchup?
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Banking, utilities, mail...all seem like small little things, but end up being huge projects.
Overwhelmed. Burning through savings. Scary.
BUT...
All that next to the daily realization that I WAS LIVING IN NEW ZEALAND!
Walking to the office felt like I was in the Lord of The Rings. It was amazing! Rivers. Birds.
And the people...
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Amazing. I learned that it is OK to assume that people are operation in good faith. People are nice. I was reminded to relax. Chat. Have a seat.
Slow down.
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How long then...didn't know.
Agh...the uncertainty would sometimes get to be too much! And when it did I went outside. A run next to the river or through the native forest.
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All that matters really was right now.
So we stayed.
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I would cling to a number on a statement. Anchor to it. Project when things would run out...then let go and realized that all that mattered was right now.
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I have learned to recognize that feeling. I have learned to dance with it.
My wife had another dream. Going to design school. In London.
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And we talked as a family and the ONLY right answer was LET'S GO!
So she went and we will follow when school's out for the kids.
How long? What after? How will it all work?
Come on now...you know the answers!