Lesbians rarely sexualize women in such spaces. Their shared experiences with women allow them the empathy to understand better than men when sexualization’s not appropriate. They also lack the relative social power to oppress those women.
The reason straight people feel so safe in gay/lesbian spaces is because they hold more social power. If we cross a line with them, we’re likey to pay.
This is why women usually don’t usually report sexual assault.
My point is a bathroom isn’t supposed to be a sexualized space, but it becomes one due to the social dynamics of our culture.
And we deserve spaces where we aren’t downstream in social power. Without those spaces, feminism has no chance.
We need to take breaks from that. And the fact that I have to defend our right to do so speaks volumes as to why.