Thread by @ArmaniTalks

If someone does you a favor.

Ask them how you can return the favor.

They may say nothing is needed.

But simply asking how you can repay them back showcases that you ACKNOWLEDGE that they did you a favor in the first place.

And that's what matters.

Think about these things..

Favors are invisible money.

When someone gives it to you, be mindful.

And if you don't return the favor or even acknowledge it, the social bond will probably sour.

'Do people take favors for granted due to maliciousness?'

Nah.

Most of the time it's because they are completely unaware.

When I was a freshman in college, I didn't have a car.

So one of my friends would always drive me around when I needed a ride.

I knew he was helping me out.

But didn't think much of it.

But the next year when I got a car...

And kept getting asked for rides.

I finally was able to empathize with that friend.

He gave me a lot of time driving me around.

Never even asked for gas money

Humans spread value in different ways.

Being able to spot how they spread value is a massive sign of social intelligence.

And requires a tamed ego

Let's use Matt for example.

Matt isn't much into expressing his feelings.

Has a lot of walls up.

And he rarely gives out compliments

But when his friends win in life, hes the first one to take them out for a beer.

Matt's way of spreading value is taking his friend out to celebrate rather than expressing feelings via words

If you were to measure Matt based off the compliments he gives, then you'd think he's a bad dude.

But If you have the social awareness to see Matt Expresses himself in a different manner, then you'll feel grateful

When we are measuring people from our ego, that's when we can overlook a lot of the small favors people do for us.

But like I said earlier.

Favors are invisible money.

If someone gives you money, you don't just put it in your pocket & go about your day

You say, what can I do for you? And if the request is reasonable, execute.

Or atleast say thank you for the money

View favors as money.

A lot of social intelligence comes down to respect.

If you showcase respect, then you'll be seen as charismatic.

But respect requires character.

And a lot of people don't have that nowadays.

'Why don't they have character?'

Because they were given too many things. Didn't earn shit.

And when you don't put in the work to earn something, you don't see the value in small things.

You lack character, which causes you to lack respect.

And you send out bad energy

But a lot of the bad energy is sent out due to their awareness.

Sad.

Don't hate them though. They just don't know any better.

But make sure you ain't falling in that boat as well.

Before we created tangible units of money.

We ran the world on favors.

Humans having each others back & delivering reciprocity.

Something about the favor is primal.

And it can be expressed in a multitude of ways.

Think about the small things people do for you.

So acknowledging the big things is a no brainer.

Favors play a role in the law of attraction

So make sure you send off the right energy.

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