Thread by @dianjulia17

My note (a thread), Part 1

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#share
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#Bible
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#believer
#Christian
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#of
#Christ
#lovingJesus
#liveinfaith
#sunday
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Thank God for another free time.... I have planned to write this down.

A man who likes to drink and smoke is a big no-no for me as a life partner. This is just the basic, not even close to the standard.

I don't even touch Biblical principles because in the Bible, this type of man wouldn't even be mentioned as a true believer.

So I am (not) surprised if a man claimed to be a Christian indulges in it. I am not surprised there are goats among the lambs, true believers, and, or carnal believers, or I would call them Hypocrites.

What surprised me is that person could actually believe and claim he/she is a Christian with those habits without repentance.

My dad is not a perfect dad or a perfect believer. But in this area, he has given his girls a good example.

He never drinks, smokes, or gambles. He set the standard for us that those behaviors are just basic rules for a good husband or the head of the family. I know he doesn't perfect in other areas.

We, his family, knew that. But if a man has failed those basic rules, I think we don't have to talk about the higher standard anymore. He is just a member of the black-listed🙄.

If he couldn't take care of God's gifted body or "temporal tent". Then torturing it with alcohol and cigarettes, don't even bother to ask him to take care of his significant other, let alone his children. It's just the basics... basics. He couldn't even love his body.😩

Okay, don't bring about culture and traditions here because I am a Bataknesse. We have strict and rigid cultures and traditions that are still being preserved, honored, and practiced today.

No matter where we are, even when we live in other countries, I believe we will still practice and honor Batak traditions and culture.

One of them is drinking alcoholic beverages named Tuak (Air Nira). It links to cultural things for Bataknesse.

On a lot of occasions, while gathering, we will serve it. (Feel free to google about this particular tribe named Batak in Indonesia.

We have a lot of beautiful traditions with deep meaning behind them, but still, as Christians, we need to submit to the Word of God above our tradition).

I understand the pressure my dad faced, with the peer pressure to smoke while he was young, and Dad has regained my respect on this matter.

I have my principles, my rules, and my standards for a husband. And it came from the Bible, from my Pastors' experience, and, from my experience.

I have lived with a married spouse for years, and I have learned from experiences, so don't try to teach me about marriage or looking for a spouse

unless you are the Scripture, you are all my trusted Pastors or my parents. Or, your marriage has borne spiritual fruits that are trustable and provable for years (in this case, maybe,

I will give you a slight chance and listen to your advice). Even I didn't always take my parents' example, especially the bad ones. I filtered it according to the Scripture.

If God is willing for me to have my own family, I may or may not give my children wealth as an inheritance. But one thing is for sure, I will give them, a Dad who fears the Lord. A Mom who fears the Lord. A parent who fears the Lord, and loves each other with Agape love.

If I can't reach that, forget about the wedding. My child isn't going to be in a fatherless generation or a spiritually fatherless generation.

When you will read this, son (daughter), know this is how much I have loved you and have taken this responsibility to another level. Because I am a Christian. And I want you to know how precious that title, and name are. So you will fear and love the Lord, too.

If these worldly companies set high requirements for their employee, with excellent internal regulations. Why can't I set the same basic rule and high standards for my spouse and marriage?.

That's why there are a lot of broken marriages and families, broken generations, even in Christian households. When you don't set a Biblical standard upon yourself, and your spouse, your children will pay the price.

I set my own standard for a spouse, marriage, and family under the Principle of the Bible. If it means, in an extreme way, I won't find a suitable couple because of that principle, If God is willing, I won't marry anyone.

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#note
#share
#principle
#Bible
#standard
#believer
#Christian
#Disciple
#of
#Christ
#lovingJesus
#liveinfaith
#sunday
#freetime
#writing