as an autistic woman, this is something Ive been going on about for ages.dailymail.co.uk/health/article…
as an outsider teen, who was bluntly terrified by the fashionable cliques of the other teen girls, I found solace in a friend (also late diagnosed ASD) who was similarly obsessed by Adam Ant and Horses, wore clothes that were comfortable and seriously unfashionable, and stuck
with the geeky boys talking about maths, science and the early days of computing (we are talking 1980 here) With retrospective understanding of my obsessional nature I know that had someone suggested that the reason I totally rejected the feminine expectations was due to some
aspect of my being that meant I really something new, special, brave and beautiful, that could elevate me over all those girls who were so mean and bitchy, I would have taken up the flag and run with it as the world's best advocate. In reality my feelings of awkward otherness
were entirely due to my being on the autistic spectrum, and not understanding the social expectations of gender that were expected of me because of my sex, combined with the onset of changing social interactions of peer group dynamics heralded by puberty.
As teenage progressed and the chasm between myself and my peer group widened, I embraced the 'outsider' movement of my era, dressed in black and developed obsessions with young men with long hair and eyeliner. My musical go-to during this period was Marc Almond who, I believe,
is also on the autistic spectrum.
I came through it, I survived teenage and early 20s, with a few mental scars and a back catalough of 'interesting' photgraphs. And, with therapy and support, an understanding of myself and where I fit, or not, into society. Thank God that
I came through it, I survived teenage and early 20s, with a few mental scars and a back catalough of 'interesting' photgraphs. And, with therapy and support, an understanding of myself and where I fit, or not, into society. Thank God that
introspection and analysis were permitted to me - The current dogma of the trans ideology deems investigation of any other reason beyond 'I am trans, support me to transistion' is conversion therapy. At least the hair and body modifications, and outrageous fashions I hid behind
because I was scared of what the incomprehensible gendered expectations of 'being female' meant, and a terror of 'normal' did not leave me with irreversible damage and possible sterility.
Normal isnt everything. We need to support these kids to understand that they are perfect
Normal isnt everything. We need to support these kids to understand that they are perfect
as they are, just in a world that runs to a different key to the one playing in their minds
