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Shanu Athiparambath @deadmanoncampus
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#MeToo allegations are coming out. Perhaps very few of of them are outright lies. Some of them are completely true. But most are selective representations of reality. It's worse than useless when a story is stripped of its context. #MeTooIndia (1/n)
Women are running amok. But even feminist female detectives who investigate rape cases think 50-90% of the allegations are false. They've studied this in different parts of the world. There's no place where at least half the allegations aren't false. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (2/n)
People refuse to believe this, but this is a consistent finding.This doesn't mean all allegations are false. Some allegations seem very real, and sexual harassment seems to have destroyed careers. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (3/n)
A few problems here. 1) As Paula Wright said on my wall, we're a sexually reproducing species. Men pursue women, and women pursue men. There's nothing wrong with that. 2) Flirting isn't wrong, and making an advance, even at one's subordinate, isn't wrong. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (4/n)
It's monstrous to say that a man shouldn't pursue his subordinates. Men, even married men, are always attracted to younger women. It's crazy to say such attraction shouldn't happen at work. Most men and women hope to find their life partners at work. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (5/n)
My father taught mom in college. It's normal for women to be attracted too. It'd be an unbearably grim world where all that's outlawed. It's a battle on innocence. People should be free to do what they want to do. So long as they don't harm others. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (6/n)
Social norms target crimes of intention. Powerful and talented men usually take advantage of women. This is no reason to punish decent men. Just because most people are bad, it isn't fair to punish good people, by imposing ridiculous social norms. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (7/n)
Women try to get better of men too. All PR women I've dealt with did flirt, and everybody knows this. We just don't take this very seriously. This is true not just of PR women, but of all women who have something to gain from the men they interact with. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (8/n)
There is ambiguity when, say, female subordinates flirt, or when actresses flirt with producers. It's normal that men flirt with them too. It's their complete lack of decency (And sense of humor) that makes people take all this very seriously. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (9/n)
If somebody flirts with you, that's no license to harass. But it works both ways. If a woman expects a promotion after sleeping with her boss, that's wrong too. It's harassment which is wrong, not flirting---or making an advance. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (10/n)
Real harassment is big deal. What does real harassment look like? When you didn't comply, a situation similar to what @ShutapaPaul says in her #MeToo story ensues. Your work becomes 10 times harder. Your boss undermines your efforts in every possible way. #MeTooIndia (11/n)
One day, your boss is a fan, and the quality of your work is excellent. The next day, your pieces are shelved. One day you are the boss, and the next day you report to her brainless, spineless minion. Do you know what I mean? #MeToo #MeTooIndia (12/n)
I totally believe women face such harassment too. But harassment is not always sexual. It's strange that we find sexually motivated harassment uniquely worthy of condemnation, and punishment. It seems obvious harassment is painful, sexual or not. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (13/n)
How does it matter whether you are mobbed at work because you disagreed with your boss, or because you aren't much into him? Both seem equally wrong. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (14/n)
Women are into all this, at least as much as men are. It takes other forms. Not soliciting sexual favors, but demanding commitment, spreading rumors, making false allegations, flirting and then accusing men of harassment when they flirt back. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (15/n)
Women sexually harass too, perhaps as much as men do. It's quite rampant. But nobody talks about this. It's the extent of abuse that matters, not the form of abuse. The key word in sexual harassment is not sex, but harassment. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (16/n)
Do you expect any man with self-respect to say, "Listen to this traumatic tale, guys!"? Is flirting even worth talking about, compared to a boss piling on work on you, marginalizing you in every possible way, and finding fault with everything you do. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (17/n)
I think @chetan_bhagat should sue the lady who shared a private conversation with him. Who is being harassed here? Real harassment happens everywhere, every day. Both men and women harass. We need to understand this better. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (18/n)
At work, nonsexual harassment is usually so unbearable that unwanted advances is not even worth talking about. Do you agree that making an advance at somebody, even against her will, is less harmful than making a false rape allegation? #MeToo #MeTooIndia (19/n)
Again, what does real harassment look like? Your work become much harder. There's a whisper network against you. There's real damage to your career and reputation. You lose your job, and can't get another and so on. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (20/n)
Feminism isn't modern. There have always been attempts to smuggle in primitivism through the backdoor, and feminism is part of this. All this nonsense reminds me of this passage. Indians can be modern only in a pathetic way, it seems. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (21/n)
Feminists think it's alright to be traumatized if a man says something weird. Is it alright if a man finds a woman who sleeps around disgusting? It's all in our minds. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (22/n)
Decent human beings don't live obsessing over rules on how to speak, what to say, and so on. Terrible human beings do. I find this contemptible. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (23/n)
I find this an assault on creativity, on innocence, on authenticity. Thought is a rehearsal to speech. When you're not allowed to say what you think, you're less likely to come up ideas that change the world. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (24/n)
Blogs and social media are amazing, because there is no editor to watch over us. Everybody gets to read what we write, without filters. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (25/n)
I'm a very easy going person. Anybody can call me, talk to me, and say anything they want, so long as they are not hostile. I'll block you if you've nothing to say but not if you swear. It's easy to negotiate with me, whatever that's for. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (26/n)
Feminism is against such open inquiry and debate. This is true of everything that prevents people from being frank with themselves and others. People don't see how primitive they're, because everybody around them are primitive in similar ways. #MeToo #MeTooIndia (27/n)
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