I've read several threads by black women about their experiences mirroring those of the woman with Ansari. They are gripping, brave, painful. They evoke the fear of reprisal & how sexual agency shifts.
I am not RTing because I don't want to encourage trolling.
But I thank them.
The fact is millions of women have had this experience precisely because we DO exert power over our own sexual agency. But that power ceases when the man chooses to ignore consent being withdrawn. The facile "just leave" narrative white women are pushing we've heard before.
For generations women have been told there's a point where they are no longer allowed to withdraw consent.
That narrative must end. For women to have true sexual agency and choice, men must assent to follow the rules and not impose their own or the threat of violence.
1/ This is directly in my wheelhouse as a civil rights lawyer. A settlement agreement is nothing but a contract. The measure of contractual breach is the consideration paid by the other side. Read on to learn more.
2/ Sometimes there are liquidated damages tied to breach of confidentiality (like $10K for every breach). But the maximum for the breach should be the total compensation paid to the victim. So that’s a known quantity.
3/ The brave women speaking out face the potential of defamation suits by rich perpetrators. If #TimesUp or others want to protect silence breakers, offering defamation defense is key. Many fear speaking out b/c they can’t afford a defense. Even tho truth is an absolute defense!