- be mindful of the power gradient between yourself and your mentee;
- be mindful of your mentee’s current level of understanding;
- provide context around *why*, and not just *what* things are done;
- come up with explanations on the fly;
- give them challenges that are *just* outside their current reach;
- make a psychologically safe environment for them to be wrong;
- gently explore their decisions & understanding via questions;
- therefore, be self-aware w.r.t. your own processes;
- be mindful that not all mentees are the same;
- be mindful that everyone has different circumstances;
- be mindful that everyone has off days;
- let them encounter problems, even steer them toward problems, for which you can help them derive the solution, so they really *understand* why e.g. best practices are thus;
- clearly distinguish between opinion, habit, & observable phenomena;
- be mindful that *you* have off days, too;
- be honest and upfront when you don’t know something, & search for an answer together;
- recognize mentorship as servant leadership, and never ego-stroking;
- be honest and upfront about your own mistakes in mentoring, and take the lesson to heart;
- remember that the goal is your mentee’s competency and confidence, and not your own;
- and … just, *so* much more.
But it can be so valuable, and so rewarding.
Embrace the messiness.