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Don't allow her pressure you into unprepared marriage. Marriage isn't same as courtship. You would realise something bigger than love when you go into marriage without a sustainable source of livelihood. If she cannot wait, let her go in peace.
So, most of your friends are getting married... except for you and your partner. To complicate matters, friends and family are already asking, "When is it your turn?".
Sure, you're both in love and marriage seems to be the next logical step, but before you jump into a hasty decision, here are some reasons why you shouldn't give in to the pressure to tie the knot just yet: 
You only get to experience the special time between falling in love and getting married once. Allow room for you and your partner to grow as individuals and for your relationship to grow naturally as a couple.
Relationships cant be rushed to maturity. This is ur time to nurture ur relationship, work out all the kinks & be sure dat it has all the potential to just get better & beta as time goes on. Give urselves the opportunity to bond in new ways over new things without being married.
Relationships and marriage are just like everything else in life - if you force them, if you rush them, it’s not going to go well.
Consider your priorities in life before deciding on marriage. Make sure you are both on the same page about each other's career goals as well as personal achievements and experiences. In short, live your life to the fullest before thinking about settling down.
Marriage comes with a hell lot of responsibilities and compromises, and subjecting yourself to all these negotiations may make you wonder a few years down the life if you have missed any opportunities and not built for yourself a life you deserved and wanted.
Educate yourself, travel as much as you can, know people, make friends, develop a career, and then say “I do”. Life’s like a cycle. Complete each stage before moving onto the next. Don’t rush because you won’t be able to go back, to finish the unfinished business.
Regrets and what ifs can also cause a lot of drama and tension in a relationship if you or your partner begin to think that things might have gone better for you if had made a different choice. You definitely don’t want to end up feeling like you have settled.
Rushing into marriage does not guarantee that the relationship will not fall apart. You don’t want to have regrets and wonder what things would have been like if you hadn't rushed into settling down so quickly with your partner.
Just because you haven't tied the knot, that doesn't mean your relationship is "incomplete". Not being married does not mean you are alone or that you don't have somebody to trust and to count on in times of need.
If you're married, it's generally assumed you'll always have somebody - for better or worse. But when you're not married, you'll also always have somebody for better or worse, somebody to count on, love, laugh with, fight with, miss, confide in and rely on.
You don't need to be married to have all the things marriage is supposed to give you - a life rich with experience and intimacy.
There are things you have to reflect upon before getting married: Compatibility, characteristics and personalities. You might have known each other well enough to a certain extent, but are you ready to stand beside your partner in his or her ugliest phase of emotions?
The challenge has toughened now that you need to explore the well-hidden emotions from what may lead you into doubting if you are the one for each other. Oftentimes, our compassion for the other half fades when he or she reacts unexpectedly in times of crises.
This is the reality of a relationship that you will face when you two do get into marriage.
Weddings can be expensive, so the both of u should evaluate ur financial situations b4 deciding to get married. You don't want to spend ur married life in debt & you'd be surprised by how often couples fight because of money.
Being married means agreeing to share the salaries, settle d bills & compromise on shopping allowances. Aldo some couples open a joint account & do biz together even b4 they get married, permanently sharing ur financial system with another person is a whole new level altogether.
Waiting to tie the knot will give you time to formulate a feasible living budget that will fit the lifestyle you anticipate. With house payments, car payments, extraneous bills, and family needs, you may feel like you’re barely hanging on.
Marriage is a life-long commitment that comes with responsibilities, money, children, and routines which require maturity, hard work and compromise from both sides. Are the both of you mature enough to deal with all that?
The house chores, the errands, cooking, the education of your child, etc. are all a part and parcel of marriage and no person, who isn’t mature enough, can look after all these things simultaneously.
Marriage is not just a union between you and your partner, it's a union between both your families. This is especially true for the Nigerian society, so you will have to be ready to face both positive and negative responses upon your relationship becoming official.
Trust is essential in any relationship, & it applies in making a marriage work. Being married means you will be sharing almost every aspect of life with your partner, which includes - like it or not - coming clean about your emotional baggage with your partner and vice versa.
The saying ‘our past determines our future’ doesn’t ring true for many things, but relationship is not 1 of them. Childhood nightmares, toxic relationship experiences & the scars that remain after bitter encounter with others are & would be, affecting your present relationship;
creeping into your minds when we least expect it. All that, fortunately, could slowly be resolved if you are willing to share your baggages with your partner.
Ultimately, marriage is a decision that will last for you and your partner's entire life. Take all the time you need to really think about it and ask yourselves if you are both physically and emotionally ready to take the next step in your relationship.
