Believing the self is more important than reality
Narcissism manifests as the belief that one's problems are unique: what worked for others won't work for him
Stagnation, frustration & resentment follow
Narcissism is the belief that one's self is one & unadaptable.
- Complaining (i.e. asking the world to comply to your idealized version)
- Refusing to solve problems
- Looking for shortcuts
All of these are narcissistic because they profess a wishful superiority of the ego over reality
A subtle difference:
- Considering reality immutable & resigning: bad.
- Acknowledging feedback from reality & learning its rules to change its contents: good.
Narcissism is the main obstacle to the latter.