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I grew up in a Christian home that had few rules. Parents encouraged us to treat each other as we would want to be treated, to love God and to be full of grace. They didn’t spank and I didn’t have a curfew. It was love-based, not fear-based parenting. 1/
I’m one of 5 kids. We all grew up to love God and love each other. We are all involved in ministry, three of us pastors, and no one went through a time of rebellion. The home wasn’t legalistic or political, just mostly loving, grace-filled and authentic. 2/
Growing up as a follower of Christ, I felt sex should be reserved for marriage. I wasn’t threatened or shamed into this notion, it just seemed right and practical to me. Consequently, I was a virgin when married. My wife was as well. 3/
I don’t take any pride in being a virgin before marriage or feel any purer, but I’m thankful this was my path. My wife and I have talked about how we appreciated being able to figure out this part of our life within the protection of marriage. 4/
There is a lot of good discussion about what is wrong with shame based legalistic purity culture parenting. However, sometimes we don’t talk about other alternatives, such as the fruit of being raised in relationship centered grace-filled homes. 5/
Anyway, there are no second class citizens in the kingdom of God. We all have different reasons for our sexual histories. We all stand complete & accepted before God. For those beginning their journey, I wanted to tell my hopeful story of being a virgin before marriage. 🙂👍 6/6
