Thread by @ArmaniTalks

After an intense traumatic moment, feel the pain.

Most people try to bury it.

But I recommend sitting with it.

You'll realize the pain itself isn't that bad. But the perceptions from your mind is.

To tame the mind, list out 3 practical lessons you learned from this experience

'Sitting with the pain? Won't that make me feel worse?'

Momentarily.

'So why should I do it?'

For the bigger picture...👇

You ever had that moment when you were riding a bike & you fell off.

So your mom sprays some antibacterial spray on the cut.

What happened?

'I felt pain.'

Then?

'The cut healed up overtime.'

Exactly.

Although the spray may sting the cut, you realize it will be responsible for healing.

Same with life.

Sitting & learning from the pain stings.

But will responsible for healing.

I'm a firm believer that a human has 2 minds.

The brain holds a mind.

The heart holds a mind.

Most spend their entire lives with the 2 minds fighting.

My strategy requires them to work together.

Your heart communicates thru feelings.

Your brain communicates thru thoughts.

After a traumatic event, the heart mind is firing off INTENSE feelings.

What you do with the brain mind is your CHOICE.

Most use their brain mind to be like:

'Gee whiz! My heart mind is firing of intense feelings. This must be bad!'

So they curl up like a little bitch.

Overthinking ensues.

But the rare few use their brain mind to be like:

'My heart mind is firing off intense feelings. Hmm, what is it trying to tell me?'

That's when magic happens.

The brain mind proceeds to answer the question:

▪︎what are 3 practical lessons I can learn from this?

'Any reason you are asking me to find a practical lesson?'

Yes.

Because finding a practical lesson requires you to look deeply into the experience to find the silver lining.

You'll find micro lessons along the way.

Call that a 2 in 1.

Each time you successfully do this, each time you build a stronger connection between the 2 minds.

'So you're saying the 2 minds become closer during conflict?'

Yea.

'Why?'

Because it has no other choice.

You just need to play your cards correctly

The next time shit hits the fan, give this tip a try.

Feel the feelings from your heart mind

Then use your brain mind to gather the lessons.

You'll feel more whole in the process.

Bravo.

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