They become more manly but less human.
The feminine clothing became a conduit between their “respectable, manly” selves and all the emotional and sexual feelings that didn’t fit inside that macho container.
But there’s that solid wall between their “femme” self and their “man” self — they don’t carry much back and forth. There is always a splitting.
“She” wasn’t built to be told no, or to think about anything except “her” own pleasure and expression.
By the time an AGP progresses to presenting himself as a trans “woman,” he’s been slipping into this abstract identify privately for years, usually decades. “She” is well-developed and set in her ways.
Some men report needing to imagine themselves as women every time in order to perform. But I think that more of them are able, at least early in the marriage, to project themselves onto their WIVES’ femininity and feel safe that way.
They make a choice, but the choice isn’t for wholeness, and the personality that is produced by that choice is lacking crucial pieces.
The long-term HSTS doesn’t satellite his emotions that way.
For the HSTS, the “female” self is what LET’S HIM be fully present and accountable.
HTSTs stay more or less on the “real world” side of the fence.
A daydream is a reckless thing.