not super into the "bi people can't reclaim homophobic slurs" take tbh. it feels real close to stuff like claiming that bi people in relationships with people of the "opposite" sex are privileged to have their orientation constantly erased
bi people deal with homophobia on the regular, it's not "misplaced homophobia" when they get dealt that shit
yeah this too
biphobia is its own separate thing and a huge portion of it comes from within the lgbt/queer community
the whole "that's just misplaced [-phobia/misogyny]" thing makes sense when it's like, trans men and non-binary people who aren't women deal with oppression based on what organs they have because it's like, you're not a woman, but the perception that you are is leading to that
but like, with bi people experiencing homophobia, the homophobia is based on that you're attracted to the same gender you are? it's different than when a straight person who seems gay gets slurs yelled at them
like it's not like if you are a closeted bi kid and you get slurs yelled at you it's just like "oh well i know they are wrong", you still have to like, struggle with knowing that they're right and do the journey of finding out the part they're wrong about is that it's bad
anyway if homophobic slurs didn't work on bi people, heteros would have invented more slurs
i don't think that all the "if you're bi you don't get to say [homophobic slur that applies to your gender or maybe a broader gender category you are perceived to be in if you are in any way trans]" are necessarily intending to try to gatekeep so much as trying to Make Rules
people really want sexuality and gender to Have Rules and want to Impose Rules upon it but the fact is that all labels are approximate at best.
the best anyone can do is an approximate set of rules and labels and set of words to attempt to communicate as best as possible to other humans without ever having the ability to fully communicate what is in our brains and hearts and that is the human condition
but also, like, maybe consider how if a Set Of Rules you are attempting to impose on a group for gatekeeping purpose actually ends up propping up oppressive structures, ie, seeing bi/pan/ace/trans/etc people as somehow Lesser members of the LGBT/queer community
