Friendship breakups are so fucking devastating. The pain, grief & heartbreak can be as bad or worse than romantic breakups. But so few folks talk about it or acknowledge how hard it is to end, downgrade or majorly shift a friendship.
It is hard to love/care about someone & also know they can’t be in your life the way you want, at least not right now. Like any relationship, sometimes you’re not on the same page, want different things or grow in different directions/paces than your friend. And it sucks.
This took off overnight. It is comforting to know others feel the same way. We need more models of appreciating adult friendships in all their complexity as a particular type of relationship.
We value legal/biological relationships (family, partners) so much, but the world would be better if more adults knew how to build, maintain, & sometimes end friendships consciously & maturely.
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