Thread by @BetsyDupuis

I dated @hackpad (acquired by @Dropbox 2015) co-founder Alex Graveley @orph in 2019.

Things started off well, but after about 2 months he became intensely emotionally abuse and increasingly sexually abusive. These are messages he sent me. #abuse #dropbox #MeToo #Domesticviolence

Alex's "best friend" @natfriedman (CEO of @github) knows about the situation and thinks it doesn't matter.

Alex is also an @ycombinator alumni.

Alex’s friend @Aaron_Muszalski founder of @ABurningWish blocked me on FB after I showed him these messages.

Alex always had ways to rationalize his behavior. He tried to leave me without a car at concert after deciding it was boring, then later started yelling at me about how I was trying to make him fall off the wagon in front 4 people I know.

Alex would repeatedly insult and degrade me throughout the relationship, then tell me he never said it and if I persisted that he said it, but I was only pretending to have hurt feelings to hurt him.

Another time I took him to swing dancing lessons in a community that I am pre-covid very active in. He spent the whole lesson angry at me that he didn't understand the lesson. Later got mad and me for talking to other men that I just know from dance.

@tsunamino, Director of engineering @github, is also ignoring this issue.

Alex's former managers the @signalapp based @mobilecoin #cryptocurrency agree that this behavior is abusive and is not out of character.

A group anonymous @github employees have reached out to me and told me that several coworkers have complained about his abusive behavior at work even before my tweets. Nothing is being done. #HostileWorkplace #github #ice

Yes, my dad really did kill himself for those that are wondering. Alex kept pressing me for details after I told Alex my dad had passed away on our 2nd date, including the exact method he used.
#suicideawareness #emotionalabuse
kltv.com/story/12317696…

Alex is currently trying to claim that we were never that serious & he's engaged and moved on. We did not date long but it was very intense. Alex constantly pressured me to move in together and to marry him which I wanted to wait. I suppose he does that with all his relationships

After pressuring me to choose a house for him to buy that I would live in, (something that made me uncomfortable) he started getting angry he didn't have a space in my home and starting leaving popcorn and other food for his specific diet.

It's certainly a lot easier to move on when you were only pretending to be in love in to get what you want. I'm sure he'll do it again.

One time he took me to look at a house and the realtor mistook us for husband and wife. We played along for a moment, but eventually I told the realtor I wouldn't be living there, so I couldn't answer questions. Alex got angry about me saying that when we left.

Alex trying to abandon me at the concert without a ride came days after telling him about how my caretakers would leave me on the side of the road in the middle of nowhere as punishment. He used my #trauma to #abuse me.

Add @boop to the list of fake allies that support #sexualviolence with silence and participation in the #boyclub.

This came as a result of calling out a man that continues to support the man that assaulted me.

#metoo

More proof that survival and success in tech is more about who you know than your character or talent.
#BelieveWomen #metoo

Maybe Alex was right... maybe those us who aren’t a part of the “top 1%” club should just kill ourselves and without their help we’ll never get ahead in life. #boysclub #metoo

More words of wisdom and advice from on #suicide from @orph
#alexgraveley #domesticviolence #SuicideAwareness #MeToo

https://twitter.com/orph/status/1005159934978215938?s=20

Not surprising that @boop works for #sexualpredator @DavidDobrik who is also known for idea-poaching from ux design candidates.

@mipsytipsy is sending me veiled threats for sharing that one of her employees, @toshok, and long-time friend of #alexgraveley said that Alex can’t be held accountable because he is mentally ill.

Furthermore, @mipsytipsy thinks sharing accounts of abuse publicly is a sign of mental illness itself. She’s lied to me about multiple instances and is repeating Alex’s lies about me and lies his friends tell to protect him from accountability. #metoo

We need to start holding men accountable for their actions. Mental health is important, but is increasingly being blamed for acts of violence by men.

No one’s needs are so great they can be ethically taken from another body by force.