We can't believe ALL women, because every time true motivations of women like "Grace," Leeann Tweeden, Susan Smith, Ashley Todd, Casey Anthony, or Tawana Brawley come to light, it reflects on our credibility and makes real victims less sympathetic and more easily dismissed.
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I understand that false reporting of sexual assault is at the same level of any other crime, but that's the justice system, not the court of public opinion. Other crimes aren't as newsworthy. The consequences of anonymous, spurious allegations are not as profound.
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With MeToo, we have harnessed the power to ruin someone's life with the stroke of a pen. This is a power that must be considered seriously and wielded with the utmost responsibility. We cannot allow it to be weaponize and rendered impotent through misrepresentation and abuse
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I'm sure my mentions are aflame right now. Do your worst. I'll be offline for awhile but I'll address them when I get back.
OK one more thing. Many of you are disparaging my "conservative friend" but the fault lines are not ideological. The divide over Ansari seems to be women like me who thinks the guy needs to get better skills, and women who are sure he had rape on the brain, based on nothing.
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And this bumps up against cultural conflict between women who are veterans of what's known as "hook up culture" vs women who married young and think we are all degenerates.
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Add that to the fact that ALL women come to this with their own experiences and fears, which they project onto the Ansari situation. A lot of people are reacting to element in the situation that just aren't there.
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That doesn't make anyone's experience or fears less valid. But we have to assess every situation on its own, not on what could have happened or what we think might have happened that we might not know about.
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If there was anything more, I can't imagine the "reporter" would have held back anything damaging when the intent was clearly to go nuclear on him, but some people claim they are protecting him. I don't get it.
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What I'd like to see from the movement is a conversation about what's acceptable, what isn't, the importance of assessing a situation because everyone women is different, what to look for as far as these "non-verbal cues" we hold them responsible for reading.
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Men aren't born knowing how women's bodies work (and some never learn, amiright?) In sex ed instead of teaching consent and how to please your partner, we teach that women are lollipops and scotch tape and all sinners go to hell.
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So they learn from porn, which is ALL wrong, or they make moves based on what THEY would like, which is even more wrong sometimes. They touch us awkwardly and too hard and too soon because they're doing what THEY would want. They don't know anything else.
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They send dick picks because they are visual creatures who love looking at naked women and think we are the same. They are proud of theirs and think we want to see it. To be clear, we do not.
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Sure, some people are selfish assholes, but I think there are guys out there who are dying to have this conversation. They want to learn. Isn't that what we want to?
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I know it's a tough conversation, because everyone woman is different. We respond differently and have different needs. But that's why it's even more important to discuss the "normal" range, and the increased importance of consent at the outer edges of that range, and beyond
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As I said before. we have to acknowledge that everyone's needs, while disparate, are all valid and worthy of consideration. Even if we don't reach a consensus, airing this out is still a positive, useful, and worthy exercise.
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Men are dumb (don't @ me 😜) especially when it comes to this. If we want them to give us what we want, in the workplace, in society, and in bed, we have to help them. I think we should try.
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I'm out. Go nuts.
For those of you assuring yourselves that Aziz Ansari will be "just fine," I give you Exhibit A @AwardsDaily 
I guess I should apologize? that my friend typed "girl" in casual conversation and I quoted her verbatim. Oddly that seems to be what people are most upset about, and it seems to have overshadowed everything else.
Lesson learned. First impressions count. I am sorry.
Lesson learned. First impressions count. I am sorry.
IDK why this didn't attach but here's the second half
Here's another good point:
I didn't say anything remotely like this, but this tweet illustrates my point. The movement isn't empowering anymore, it's punitive.
