Definitions:
Mimetic desire is desire arising from imitation: wanting what someone else has, family ideas about right life, cultural ideas about beauty.
Negative Capability is the capability to not resolve conflicts.
The peer group is from a college with one culture; the family is first-generation immigrants; media images point a third way.
Wildlife management is an art. A few small adjustments to an ecosystem can be useful, but trying to solve a particular problem often leads to second-order-effect disasters. You kill the wolves, and the ruminants destroy the landscape.
As with wildlife management, one can take conflicting desire as the natural landscape, not in need of intervention, while occasionally intervening artfully.
Favoring particular desires can lead to second-order-effect disasters.
Or, you could relax, sit back, and enjoy the drama of one's own internal conflicts.