If a household has enough candles to light for a consistent 8-night increase (mehadrin min ha-mehadrin), but your neighbor has none left, we must light fewer--share with her--and fulfill the obligation in a way that may not be ideal. 1/
Imagine what this lesson, widely applied, could achieve for unity and empathy. 2/
Scrupulousness in sacred religious life is distorted & counter productive when it subverts 'the other' and only exists in an internally-focused vacuum.
When flames don’t illuminate another’s need for light, they under perform. 3/3