Even if they desperately would like you to stay.
A tech lead's ultimate priority is the success of the tech. A people manager's ultimate loyalty is to the growth and development of the people on their team.
Until they don't.
One of my reports, a powerhouse engineer who was easygoing and a dream to manage, suddenly seemed oddly bothered in our normal 1x1.
"do you think I should start looking for something new?"
and without hesitation, I said "yes."
But he fucking *trusted me*. You know?
I started noticing how many things people were telling me weren't adding up.
I left, it crumbled, Parse got shut down as it inevitably was going to be. Etc.
I stuck around way too long because I accepted it, and thus many people poured their life's blood into a doomed project.
✨sometimes you need to leave a company because you are actually too awesome for them✨ or on a trajectory too steep to comfortably align✨