Thread by @PeteThePlanner

I learned yesterday @indystar will no longer carry my columns. Budget cuts and whatnot. Six years, 315 columns, and lots of reader emails. Thanks for reading.

BTW, I'm not looking for sympathy. Reserve that for those people who lost their full-time jobs. I'm fine. Financial fragility is real. And for those former @indystar journalists who've recently had their jobs eliminated, I'll gladly help you through this for free. Hit me up.

My last column for the Star, which won't run now, was about Financial Fragility. I'll tweet storm it to you right now. #irony

Fragility. It’s the word, concept, feeling I can’t escape this week. Our financial lives are incredibly fragile. No matter our level of preparation, forces significantly outside of our control can rewrite the stories we’ve worked so hard to pen.

It began to sink-in on the day millions of Americans opened their paycheck, only to see zeros staring back them. The government’s partial shutdown has led to a nightmare scenario for a reported 800,000 government workers and millions of government contractors.

These people did nothing wrong. They don’t deserve this. Yet, here we are.

Or maybe it was the email I received this week from a kind woman who lost her home in the Camp wildfire out in southern California that sent me over the edge. Of course, that was even before I remembered the thousands of other Californias who are in the same boat.

You know, come to think of it, I believe it was the message I received about a man going through a divorce and the brutal financial impact it was having on both him and his former partner.

It could have been the woman I wrote about a few months ago who had everything perfectly planned, including her multi-million dollar nest egg, that was quickly vanquished by the costs associated with her husband’s Alzheimers.

Nope. The straw that broke the camel’s back was much more personal.

You’ve sat in a doctor’s waiting room. You, like me, have done everything in your power to not touch anything, because hey, you are sitting in a room full of sick people.

I sat in my doctor’s waiting room this week, and despite my generally positive demeanor, my mind went to a very dark place. What if, and I mean if, the malady which led me to this germ factory was what my Google search said it could be? What if?

I started to read the back of my insurance card, then navigated to the insurance company’s website on my smartphone. Very quickly I realized how inadequate my coverage is, and how big of financial problem I would have.

Ruin.

That’s what I was facing if the appointment didn’t go well. In fact, a friend on Twitter had just posted a picture of her $193,000 medical bill. How does one recover from something like that? I’m fine, by the way.

Crafting a reasonable financial life is incredibly difficult. It’s hard if it goes well, and it feels impossible when it does not go well.

From student loan debt, to housing, to raising a family, to paying for their college, to retirement, our collective ability to hit these milestones feels like a miracle. And let’s not forget the accomplishment that is surviving on less than living wage.

The great assumption we’ve all made is everything will fall into place if we’re disciplined. It’s simply not true. I’d love to tell you it is, but this isn’t a made for TV movie. When I was a kid I used to watch a series of programs called “After-school Specials.”

They were tidy little stories which introduced a tad bit of conflict and/or teen angst, and then surreptitiously resolved the issue with a moral of the story to boot. Financial fragility casts a different shadow.

The logical conclusion would seem to be an emphasis on the importance of an emergency fund. But that’s not my conclusion. The ham-handed “that’s why you need an emergency fund” or “go drive Uber” prescriptions are tone-deaf.

These stories I’m sharing aren’t cautionary tales to help prepare you for tragedy. These stories are about these people, not you.

Any of us can have our financial lives ripped away.

Most of the time I leave you with actionable advice on how to manipulate your behavior to secure better outcomes. Today? Today I want you to place yourself in someone else’s shoes. I want you to immerse yourself in others’ realities.

You can’t take your emergency fund with you or even your nest egg. I want you to imagine you are a federal worker who isn't getting paid. For the sake of the exercise, you don’t have savings, you can’t easily secure a personal loan, and you don’t have family who can bail you out.

Swim around in this. If you’d rather be the person who lost everything in a wildfire, be that person. If you think trading places with the lady who has $193,000 in medical bills is a better exercise, do that. I’m not asking you to solve the problems at hand.

I’m asking you to experience someone else’s despair.

Empathy and grace are often absent in the financial world. We've divided into the have and have-nots, and we aren't doing ourselves any favors because of it.

Choosing to overlook or be apathetic towards someone's misfortune, or even circumstances brought on by poor decisions, doesn't any of us. I’m asking you to care more. There are millions of Americans hurting right now, and they need your support. -

***Slight Update - Although the @indystar will not print my column anymore, USA Today still will, and they will continue to distribute it to their various newspapers. My commitment to take-on people's biggest financial challenges is stronger than ever. If you need help, email me.