I'm continuing my deep dive into both To Train Up a Child, by the Pearls, and my own childhood experiences of so-called Christian discipline.
Do mute this thread if it is going to be too much. I get it.
I've been shown SO MUCH love.
Seriously, say Real one more time.
That God made the world,
Put Adam and Eve in it,
Gave them a training exercise based on 'law' (which they failed),
And then spanked them with earthly death and threat of eternal damnation,
Then gave them 'grace'
The family unit becomes a kinda 'false earth',
Dad begins 'god',
Child becomes 'humans',
Dad's rules become 'law',
Spanking is 'death',
Grace = ???
In the Christian tradition, when Jesus came to earth, he found that followers of the 'law' were doing their most to do the least.
He saw people more concerned about keeping the ritual Sabbath than helping those in pain.
"Are you going to pray?"
Don't know what to say.
"Yes, you do."
The panic rises. Its not really about prayer anymore. You can't think of anything. You give up. There will be a caning.
Suffice to say, you can't force anyone into moral/heart transformation by injuring them.
On resisting reproof by a stranger, "Don't delude yourself it is loyalty or caution, it is rebellion, which is as (evil as) 'the sin of witchcraft'."
Lest we forget that we are now living in the middle of numerous sexual abuse cases in churches where time after time the (often young) victims are Not Believed.
She sets up one of their baby traps,
Gives him a toy,
Tells him to play with it,
She smacks his leg,
Tells him to play,
He won't, smack,
"The rod lived up to its promise."
Lest we forget, it's not about justice, it's about authority, abuse, 'obedience'
I....just...can't right now....
So, yeah, I've seen plenty a child carried from the room to be spanked, SCREAMING for mother and her not bat an eyelash.
I've seen my mother's heart break, and harden.
I read stories last week of folk accused of abuse in one SBC church then being moved to another church and back into youth work, this is NOT the redemption I'm speaking about.
I think my parents got caught in a burmuda's triangle of Authoritarian and Dangerous doctrines, mixed with their personalities and childhoods that brewed into abuse.
Isolation was probably not a good idea.
I understand the urge.
I honestly believe she liked being pregnant and loved being a mother, especially later in life when she came out of the fog of either being pregnant, having a toddler, or both.
I'll get back to it later.
As in, I'll switch your bottom so hard, the pain will carry you through to next Tuesday. Whether real or a threat, that's not right, is it?
Is he responsible for his actions anyway? Yes x 1000
- Pearls teach children it's okay for others to inflict pain on them,
- Children will not be believed over adults,
- Both parents should inflict pain so there's no safe space in the home
- Grace (exists?)