This is the last (part 6) of my live-tweet threads about To Train Up a Child by Michael and Debi Pearl, also talking openly about my own experience.
Mute if appropriate.
I said that I never wanted the family to be separated as if staying together is the goal. That was quite a selfish way of speaking.
Being separated from family, if family is abusive, can be best.
One is a throwback to the thing I've been avoiding from Thread 1,
The other is the last couple of chapters and the Pearls teaching on gender roles, and how Authoritarianism is threatened by change
Not the parental, the authoritarian.
Not just representing human will, but supposedly imposing God's will through physical punishment.
What was THAT like? I'll tell you.
So, you must go to Dad's office, knowing what is going to happen. If you don't go quick enough they start adding on more when you do get there. Sometimes you wait there for ages
Now, The Pearl's, would think that this time would be spent in repentance, contrition or 'inner transformation'.
It's just 💯% pure bodily fear.
Victim blaming 101, and we're KIDS. 'I'm going to hurt you, but I don't want to....' Nice set up for a lifetime of believing no one will hurt you intentionly
You're seven. You're five. Maybe younger.
The fact that I can't think of many specific examples of why we might be caned goes to show it was likely never for anything serious/dangeous. Often unjust, too. In a fight, only one would get spanked
I mean, Michael Pearl would say this is not enough, but, hey, one to three as an average, lucky us I guess?
This gif is hilarious, if only I could have 😂😂 fffuuckkk.... I gotta laugh...
Swallow the cry out.
If you make too much noise, more to follow.
Imagine how hard your human heart would have to be to continue to hit a crying child. How do you recover from that? How do you pedel back from that? Oh dad, oh mom....
Children from Christian families often struggle, after growing up, to relate to God the Father AT ALL because of this shockingly abusive theology. I wholeheartedly understand folk walking away from church never to return.
Laying your head metaphorically on the spiritual shoulder of the Lord while he holds a bloody sword. No.
Every child deserves better than to be taught that your abuser is your comforter. Never, ever, ever, ever is that okay. Ever. Ever ever.
I'm sorry that we older ones didn't do more to process/protect the younger. Always sorry.
Back in a minute to talk about how so-called Traditional Gender Roles play into this abuse.
By a MAN do you mean an adult who hits children with canes, Michael?
No gif, not funny.
Now, then, let's have a quick chat. Why is Complimentarianism and Gender Roles specifically showing up in a book on 'Discipline'?
i FELL off my chair.
Michael actively disparages, Debi does not here.
I..... *eye roll*
Never mind treating her well for her own sake. Treat her well for BREEDING MACHINE. 😨🤢🤮
We in the LGBT+ community will not and do not accept physical, sexual or spiritual abuse, especially of children, especially of those in need.
We will not stand for it and we WILL speak up against it.