Thread by @StupidRock

#pregnancyhelpline
Post-abortion regret, Men's edition
Yes, men experience it, too. With the rise in regret calls, I've been hearing from more men, too. This is both good and bad.
It's bad because...wow, there's a lot of regret for a part in a bad decision out there.
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It's good, though, because more men are realizing their powerful role in women's decision-making regarding pregnancy, and how they've knowingly or unknowingly coerced a woman into an abortion. They also don't know who to talk to because the person they want to talk to is the
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person they coerced into the abortion and that person may not be ready to talk about their abortion.
For example, one young man called and told me he was just realizing he coerced his gf (now fiance) into an abortion about a year ago. He told her it was just like going to
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a dentist's appointment and getting her teeth cleaned.
He knew she was not happy about it and was not really sold on the idea of an abortion, but he convinced her.
Now he realizes what a terrible thing he did, and he's even tried to talk to his SO about it, but she's closed
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off to discussing the abortion right now.

Men need to realize they are often the single most important factor for a pregnancy outcome. They also need to know their feelings of regret are valid, and it's ok to talk about them and seek help and counseling.
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Keeping our regret locked inside hurts us, prevents healing, keeps us from moving forward, and therefore ultimately ends up hurting those around us.
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