Thread by @StupidRock

#pregnancyhelpline #thingsIhear
Abortion regret edition, 1

Do you know how many women contact me expressing #abortion regret?
A lot.
These women come to me usually at the end of their rope, completely desperate. They feel they cannot tell their family or friends or SO about
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their feelings. In many cases, it was one or more of these people who encouraged them or even pressured them to have the abortion in the first place, or is encouraging them for doing the right thing afterwards. Sometimes they have told no one about the pregnancy or abortion.
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In all these situations, it boils down to them keeping all the feelings of regret, guilt, shame, doubt, sadness, fear, anxiety, etc. inside because they are afraid of telling someone close them and getting judged and being made to feel worse, or being dismissed and not helped.
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Either way, they get to a point where they would rather turn to a stranger and ask for help, because they can't keep it to themselves anymore but they feel they can't tell someone they know.
That must be an awful place to be, mentally and emotionally.
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One lady chatting with me from the UK said she had an abortion last year for health reasons. She did not need the abortion, but having one would be easier than managing the condition, which would have cleared up around 20 weeks on it's own. She said the abortion messed with
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her head badly and she had dealt with depression for much of the year. Now she's pregnant again, the same condition is popping up, but she wants to keep the baby. She realizes she didn't need to have the abortion last time, and she's feeling a lot of regret and shame. She even
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feels like she does not deserve this baby and is worried she will end up miscarrying or something as some kind of cosmic punishment. I found her a pregnancy help center which would help with childbirth and parenting classes, material aid, and post-abortion support.
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