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#pregnancyhelpline post abortion regret
These calls are more common in the late night and early morning hours.
A young woman near my age called, sobbing. Her abortion was a trauma no one understands or is willing to listen to her about.
She had an abortion a year ago.
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These calls are more common in the late night and early morning hours.
A young woman near my age called, sobbing. Her abortion was a trauma no one understands or is willing to listen to her about.
She had an abortion a year ago.
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She had been with the father for 5 years at that point. She said he thought he was supporting her but all actually offered to do was to call the abortion clinic for her. 🙄
He wanted kids. She still wants kids. He left her 1 month after she got the abortion.
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He wanted kids. She still wants kids. He left her 1 month after she got the abortion.
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The day she called me, she had gone to a baby shower for her ex's current baby mama. She said she had to leave a few times because it was too overwhelming.
All she could think about was how SHE should have a baby right now, how old he would be (she always refered to her lost
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All she could think about was how SHE should have a baby right now, how old he would be (she always refered to her lost
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baby as "he"), and how much she wanted to be a mom.
Her ex now has 2 kids by 2 other women. You know what made her the most upset about her abortion? The fact that it never felt like a choice. It felt like she was backed into a corner, she told me.
Her biggest questions?
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Her ex now has 2 kids by 2 other women. You know what made her the most upset about her abortion? The fact that it never felt like a choice. It felt like she was backed into a corner, she told me.
Her biggest questions?
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"Why me? Why, after 5 years, could he not for one second entertain the idea that I could be a mother to his child?"
She wasn't ready financially for a baby. Family could not help her at the time But she said she would have been glad to figure out a way to make it work...
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She wasn't ready financially for a baby. Family could not help her at the time But she said she would have been glad to figure out a way to make it work...
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...if her ex had shown any support for any other option but abortion.
So here she is a year later, being triggered by a baby shower, being triggered when seeing her neices and nephews, and feeling like she is a worthless piece of garbage. She doesn't know how to describe
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So here she is a year later, being triggered by a baby shower, being triggered when seeing her neices and nephews, and feeling like she is a worthless piece of garbage. She doesn't know how to describe
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her internal conflict to her family, who she feels puts her last in terms of attention because all her other siblings have kids or are currently pregnant, and she understand they of course want to spend time with (grand)kids.
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No one should ever be told abortion is their only option.
No one should feel like they have no other choice but abortion.
This young woman's trauma is real but largely unnoticed because abortion was the "common sense" decision at the time and her ex "supported" her decision.
No one should feel like they have no other choice but abortion.
This young woman's trauma is real but largely unnoticed because abortion was the "common sense" decision at the time and her ex "supported" her decision.
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