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I honestly think movies have created this “prince charming syndrome” where women conflate high standards with delusions of grandeur when it comes to finding happiness in love with men. We honestly expect them to be more functional and emotionally stable than we are.
They’re supposed to be calm, be successful, understand our mood swings, our feelings, our issues and our securities. And on top of this, they’re supposed to flawlessly communicate, give great sex whenever we feel like it, be sensitive, emotionally open and highly intelligent.
YET, we can’t match all those demands and wouldn’t WANT to because we’re human. We’re on actual crack. Media has everyone on crack.
I’m not even caping for men but we have to make sure that we’re not expecting men or anyone to be super human in order to fulfill our every emotional need. It’s very narcissistic.
This mindset often leaves us feeling disappointed in love and very ungrounded. I think the Prince Charming syndrome tells us that if someone “seems” like a good catch on the surface, they HAVE to be fundamentally exactly right for us. Humans don’t work like that.
Understanding someone’s character, goals and whether they have the ability to process conflict and emotions healthily show whether they’re able to build a long lasting sustainable relationship. And that’s what we need to require of ourselves as women, too.
You both may need to help each other, re-teach each other, and work through unhealthy conditioning. If you do it right, you and your partner will mature together. Y’all will help “raise” each other in an indirect way.
Trusting someone enough to learn from them is ultimate intimacy.
