Robert Keegan assigned them to six stages of moral development.
This is most obvious in religious fundamentalism, which denies the nebulosity of ethics, stranding you in a childish moral understanding.
Unfortunately, “easier” is not “easy,” and ethical anxiety—a sense of being lost at sea when it comes to ethics—is increasingly prevalent.
This “social intuitionism” is a descriptive theory, about how ethics works in practice.
It’s not a good account of how ethics ought to work.
Also, the stages alternate btw excesses of individuation & social embeddedness.
However, one needs to be at stage 4—the ethics of systems—to fully meet the demands of modern society.
Unfortunately, getting to stage 4 is hard, and only a minority of ppl ever do.
We should help them
Here the subject (self) is a collection of short-term practical interests.
One recognizes that other people have their own interests (desires, agendas), which you have to take into account.
Relationships are “transactional”: transient alliances for mutual benefit.
An exchange is “fair” if it is of equal value (as seen from your own perspective)
Here personal interests are *relativized*, which means they move from subject to object:
In other words, you no longer are your collection of interests—you have interests.
You are *in* relationships; and, tacitly, you find yourself defined by them.
For stage 2, other people are meaningless unless they directly affect one’s interest.
For stage 3, “the other’s POV matters to us intrinsically, not just to satisfy our more egocentric purposes.”
Stage 3 also becomes intensely sensitive to “what others think of me,” which stage 2 is mostly oblivious to.
One takes on other people’s emotions, values, interests, and situational experiences without clearly identifying them as someone else’s.
Relationships are normatively symmetrical: between equals; and reciprocal: each provides the same kind of support for the other
Communal ethics seek harmony within a homogeneous social group.
Equality here means that everyone’s needs deserve to be heard; unlike stage 2, it does not necessarily imply an exchange of equal value, b/c some ppl need more than others.
Also, you should obey community taboos and shibboleths, even when they are unjustified and senseless.
Living up to what other members expect from you to is good by definition—because “who I am” is “how people feel about me.”
The Golden Rule is a summary of communal ethics; note its perfect symmetry!
Here the ethical imperative is to fulfill the role in the conventional prescribed way: being a “good” child, parent, or spouse.
Romantic relationships tend toward fusion, eliminating any emotional separation or difference in values.
From its point of view, asymmetry implies that one party is failing to take the other’s experience into account, which could only be motivated by stage 2 selfishness.
That impossible feeling of having to be in several places all at the same time, the feeling of wanting everyone you love to be happy, or even feeling you could make them all happy—if only they would cooperate.
This is often whoever happens to be there at the time, or whoever is best at displaying intense feelings.
People in stage 3 seem irresponsible and unreliable to people in stage 4.
From the communal point of view, that was being responsible: they were dealing with the thing that came up, which was that someone from some other part of their life wanted something else done.
This merely sounds like stage 2 selfishness to stage 3: prioritizing my wants over the third person’s.
“That’s not my problem” can be stage 2 language or stage 4 language; it is not stage 3 language.
In effect, you try to be responsible for everything.
However, if you are responsible for everything, you cannot actually be responsible for anything.
You cannot be held accountable to any specific responsibility.
It’s impossible to base a large-scale society on communal mode, b/c it’s so ineffective at coordinating complex group activities.
(If ppl frequently fail to do their specific, agreed tasks, nothing can get done.)
It is not adequate to fully cope with what modern societies demand of adults.
Stage 3 adults in the West are developmentally traditional people living in a modern world—and that causes friction.
However, in the communal mode, systemic logic seems alien and emotionally unacceptable.
Anti-capitalism, e.g, is often motivated by a stage 3 rejection of the asymmetrical, structured relationship of employment.
(However, it can also be motivated by a stage 4 systemic understanding of how capitalism works, & why it doesn’t work well enough.)
They move from subject to object, and are subordinated to, and organized by,a system.
You no longer are in relationships that define you; you have relationships.
You no longer are just a stream of transient emotional experiences
Here the self is a structure of enduring principles, projects, and commitments.
You are “self-authored”: you choose your own principles, projects, and commitments.
They have experiences, so those are not your experiences.
It means that you are not flooded by them, and can evaluate whether or not to respond to them, and how best to do so.
To stage 3, that sounds cold, but for stage 4, it means seeing the other person for who they really are.
Emotions are just something ppl have, from time to time.
Relating to the other person’s principles, projects, and commitments means supporting what they most care about in the longer run.
That is what it means to be in a relationship with another person, rather than losing both your selves in a warm bath of shared feelings.
Whereas stage 3 advances over stage 2 by being able to take the perspective of one other person, stage 4 can take the perspective of an entire system—different roles that have asymmetrical & structured relationships w each other.
A stage 4 social system is rational in at least the sense that there is a reason for the nature of each role & relationship; and the reasons together provide an interlocking structure of justification.
(Communal epistemology is typically associational, with unordered lists of items forming a loose category, or sets of symmetric correspondences.)
You have planned a week’s vacation with your spouse as a “second honeymoon,” and arranged childcare so just the two of you can renew your romantic relationship.
But then your parents call & express disappointment that they see so much less of you.
you invite your parents along on the vacation, and bring the kids, & then everyone will be happy.
Your spouse might be a little disappointed, but you know that he or she also loves your parents, and enjoys spending time with them.
You are responsible to your parents + to your spouse in different ways that compel prioritizing one relationship or aother in different situations, on the basis of specific reasons, not just who has stronger feelings.
A visit with your parents can include your spouse and children; sometimes a vacation with your spouse cannot include anyone else, due to its specific nature
Or at least bring it up before inviting them!
In this case, it is a multigenerational family system, with distinctive subsystems—such as the couple—that have distinctive needs, independent of any individual
For stage 3, complex social systems impose what seem arbitrary external demands (presumably devised by the powerful for their selfish benefit).
Lacking a systemic view, communal people take for granted all the goods of modern life.
In the communal mode, you can be responsible to the demands of a role (“a good son”), but you cannot be responsible for your roles.
Not only can you prioritize them, you recognize that your responsibility for a particular role has particular limits; and you can enter and exit roles by choice.
Stage 4 includes meeting formal responsibilities—that is, ones that are invented in order to make the system work, not ones that are biologically inherent.
It does not mean that everyone’s feelings are taken into account (as in stage 3)
It means that the system treats people impartially, based on rights, principles, and procedures.
This protects the less powerful against the whims of the powerful, and against nepotistic (personal-relationship-based) favoritism.
But at stage 4, one takes responsibility not merely for personal roles, or for the needs of people you are in relationship with, but for a whole social structure.
It includes the ability to enter and exit roles (not merely relationships) by choice, and to create roles for yourself (+ others) based on the system’s needs
Effective institutional leadership is one way mastery of this stage can manifest.
The central issue, rather, is how to resolve conflicts between good intentions.
But not everyone can live that way.
Post-modernity was an overthrowing of systematic mode.
Systems are relativized again:
They move from subject to object, and are subordinated to, and organized by, the process of meaning-making itself.
You are no longer defined as a system of principles, projects, and commitments.
Development beyond stage 4 is driven by seeing contradictions within and between systems.
When you realize that the system doesn’t work as well as the ideology claims it should, you look for an alternative set of principles.
Which is why some ppl pursue religion
There is no ultimately true principle on which a correct system can be built.
It’s not just that we don’t yet know what the absolute truth is; it is that there cannot be one.
You no longer see by means of systems, but can see through systems as contingent constructions that most people mis-take as solid.
Stage 4 sees them as rational necessities justified by ultimate principles.
Stage 5 recognizes that they are both nebulous (intangible, transient, ambiguous) and patterned (distinct, clear, and definite).
[Systems become objects of creative play rather than constitutive of self, other, and groups. ]
All ideologies are relativized as tools rather than truths.
It sees conflicts btw groups w different values as inevitable & as ultimately non-problematic, even if sometimes harmful in the short run.
Values are neither objective nor subjective.
Fluidity understands that ethical situations are often inherently nebulous—not relative, but nebulous.
Lacking ultimate principles, an engineering approach to ethical mastery is impossible, but ethical skill—a toolkit of methods for ethical bricolage—can be learned.
Postmodernnism (Modernity/systematicity has broken down, but we haven’t yet consolidated a positive new mode (personal, social, and cultural fluidity).