'So what do I do?'
You learn the 75/25 law.
'What is that?'
The law of charisma...👇
Do you have any idea why you overthink?
'Yea. Because others are judging how shy I am.'
Incorrect.
Others are thinking about themselves, not you.
Now you stay in your head too much & avoid the present moment.
A major no no in the social world.
And that's when you start giving off a strange vibration to the social setting.
This is when you begin attracting comments like 'why are you so quiet?'
It's YOU who did that.
When you have the awareness to realize that overthinking:
1. Is born from an illusion of being watched.
2. Attracts the wrong vibes
You become much more mindful & stay in the present moment.
Although their mouth isn't running, their mind is.
They pick up on social cues which are not being noticed by others.
This group of shy people are placing most of their attention on being aware rather than speaking
So this group has an edge in terms of social awareness.
'Why?'
Because solid social awareness helps with listening skills.
And listening skills build social awareness.
This is the path towards charisma
That means:
☆75% listening & 25% speaking.
If you look at most charismatic people, you'll see they often follow this rule.
☆~95% listening & 5% speaking.
That's just a rough average.
So in order to become more charismatic you aren't talking THAT much more.
Just ~20% more.
You're not talking 90% more or something bold like that.
Just 20 ish.
If you can't do that, then idk what to tell ya.
You're undermining your potential
That's the best way to look at it.
Use your shy stage to build social awareness & your listening muscle
Those are the foundations of any human interaction.
This thread has now given you a blueprint on how to handle shyness.
Having the blueprint will allow you to move with intent vs. hesitancy.
So use your shyness as a weapon vs. an excuse to be a wimp!
You'll see the compound effects in no time.
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