Thread by @ArmaniTalks

It's hard to get rattled by opinions when you study up on human nature.

We often underestimate the amount of people who talk shit about us.

Flip your mindset

Expect most humans to be shit talkers & be pleasantly surprised when they aren't.

You feel more bulletproof that way.

I used to be the guy that wanted to get on everyone's good sides.

And when I did that, I wished that they would hype me up to others.

'Is that what happened?'

Nah. Many talked shit

'So what happened?'

Well, I didn't want to confront them.

Wanted to see what they did in front of my face.

That's what gave me a good understanding of human nature.

'So what did they do?'

They smiled to my face

And talked shit about others now....

It was never personal.

The people who gossip typically do it at their core.

That's not to say you shouldn't accept criticism.

But be able to distinguish between constructive criticism & gossip.

The more you learn about humans, the more you learn they gossip on autopilot.

You may do it a lot of times as well.

There's 2 sorts of instance where you talk about people.

1. Updating
2. Malicious

Updating is fine in my eyes.

Ex: 'Hey did you hear John's business has been doing well?'

This one does not sully someone's reputation.

Malicious is what makes up most gossip.

Ex: 'Hey did you hear John quit his last job bc he was scared of his manager. Now he's playing with his laptop all day.'

This one is hurting someone's reputation.

'Why do people do malicious gossip?'

It's because it's a reflection of themselves.

Most shit talkers don't just talk shit about you, but instead, clown everyone as well.

Which is why I say don't take it personal

And believe it or not, more people talk shit about you than you can imagine.

Just because you're not a shit talker does not mean that others arent'.

-If you do well, they undermine it behind your back.

-If you fail, they amplify it behind your back.

Which is why you need to detach your sense of worth from others opinions.

Others will always think things about you.

But when you allow them to think whatever & don't let it alter your behavior, you get your power back.

You become more bulletproof.

Remember, just because you're a standup guy doesn't mean others are.

That's like hoping others will be good drivers just because you are.

Ha!

Don't work like that pimp

Be okay with getting cut off on the highway, tailgated & the victim of road rage.

But don't let it alter your behaviors.

Since you are mentally prepared for it, you will feel less rattled when it happens

So prep your mind

And toughen your skin.

That's how you control your own narrative.

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