Thread by @usnehal

On "called in" versus "called out": in fact, a true ally can tolerate being "called out" to model #learning #mindset/#growthmindset for others. Those who need everything to be done hidden/in private reveal they care more about image, optics, their own reputation.

https://twitter.com/kitagarr/status/1308770492283666432

People need to let go of this concept of "shame" or "did you just call me a racist"? Everyone has more to learn. Was just discussing with a woman who pointed out elite programs in the U.S. fulfill "diversity" quotas with "Black" from Africa rather than descendants of slaves.

The underlying issue of exploitation, specifically slavery, was #economic. The experience of personal + generational trauma + loss of generational wealth + loss of identity is a deliberate #systematic #systems approach to value extraction for economics.

wbur.org/hereandnow/201…

System level issues aren't solved by private conversations ("call in") even if you feel entitled to that. That sense of entitlement, to preserve reputation (your "good name"), is a privilege compared to those enslaved had their names and identities erased
facinghistory.org/reconstruction…

Plus, instead of controlling those on the side of social justice, racial justice, or economic justice, how about control/hold accountable the people who impose the current controls? In all industries, including healthcare, "professionalism" is racial
ssir.org/articles/entry…

Where does your discomfort come from? Maybe your discomfort with uncomfortable topics that confront your personal, racial, ancestral identities are part of the barrier to needed change for justice and equity? How about try to grow instead of put up walls?

npr.org/sections/codes…

This happens in schools too, thus perpetuates these wrong mindsets and reactions to social justice, racial justice, economic justice work. You need to examine what "lines of code" exist in your own brain and who put it there? Are you self aware?

eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ1206634

Are you really scared of a few honest words said to you in public? Where is your commitment and courage? The real work gives no immediate 🏆 In fact, as Heifetz points out, true leadership will get you taken out/down: hks.harvard.edu/courses/leader… If it feels hard, that's cuz it is.

There are Black men who walk out of the house daily with the kind of courage that @DrJCoftheDC describes here explorethespaceshow.com/podcasting/jas… Do you have any idea what it is like to have to smile no matter what cuz your *life* may depend others not fearing you? @ETSshow #BlackExcellence

These emotions of those scared of few words, loss of their "good name", "optics" exhausts and consume yet more of the already scarce resources for this work after generations of exploitation.

If you need to work on yourself before you do this, do that.

sojo.net/articles/our-w…

Your need to get a trophy for allyship or know it all already or rush in to save the day is itself part of an ego-driven exploitative construct that may be part of your personal, cultural, religious, and/or community identity and narrative: theatlantic.com/international/…

Do you, by the way, have views on whether or not you would consume pornography? (Not judging, just asking). Are you aware of this type you may consume that makes you feel powerful and feels good compared to someone on their knees? Can you tolerate equity? goodthingsguy.com/opinion/what-i…

Why does a WOC or POC need to be one their knees to be “beautiful”?

This political cartoonist actually draws about economic, social, political injustice yet was completely misinterpreted by a different cultural lens

cagle.com/author/dario-c…

That’s why you have to spend time on your OWN lens before you can assume your see it all clearly.

No one can see it all, all the time, so why not accept that failures are expected?

Can we please we be honest about imperfections?

Model humility and learning.

Please get over this entitlement to private, customized, 1:1 call ins to protect your ego & feelings. Please stop expecting #blackqueen, POC, WOC, BIPOC to continue to be emotional mammies as per @mdawriter

That still maintains value extraction towards you from them

Exhausts

https://twitter.com/mdawriter/status/902664705348698112

While am myself a WOC (some do count Muslim as URM) none of that matters as I can assess my own self as having had various types of privilege such that I do what I can to try to counter this.

Not saying I have it “easy” but I do lack some barriers

npr.org/sections/codes…

I do hold others accountable in “my” communities, be it pediatricians, women physicians, South Asian, “model minority”, academics, Muslims - please don’t pull any “I am a WOC too” as a self defense or to invoke victimhood. Tolerate the discomfort to grow. forbes.com/sites/sujanpat…

Where is your attention? On yourself and your comfort? Or on these things that are exquisitely painful?

If you call yourself empathetic and you are not doubled over in pain at this daily, how well is your empathy working as an ally?

Do you center on yourself?

Your empathy often gets in the way of ethics per @paulbloomatyale

by making yourself and your feelings the gatekeeper of your attention and to determine what is “good”

you perpetuate, not eradicate, historical, cultural, systemic inequity and injustice

qz.com/1024303/empath…

There are 1001 more things on “call in” vs “call out”

but bottom line is:
this should not be about
you
your ego
your image
your avoidance of discomfort
your avoidance of growth
your reputation
your professional clout or earnings or promotion

Be a true, authentic, humble ally

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