People recommend a variety of strategies for (cyber)stalkers
Personally my fave: overload them with SO MUCH data their systems break down & THEY have a break down 😈
Maybe stop stalking me so your brain won’t have to try to follow mine
cuz, I promise you: you can’t keep up 🏃🏾♀️
Last semester, way I did group work: slow down by 70-80%
(apart from rare times w/ ppl w/ matched pace & skill)
Based on 360 eval feedback to:
slow down so others can keep up
&
lower my standards
Took 3x course load
did 2-3 Zoom at once
& still got all As (except one B+)
Thought experiment:
If I were a cis straight white man with my abilities, would I still be told to lower my standards?
If I were not advocating for system change & equity but if as a WOC I aligned with incentives of patriarchy, would my hard work translate to more rewards?
It’s why my “theme song” for this year was “Wicked”
self acknowledged “spin out” emotionally or “fly off the handle” =inward: intense migraine
I have had to manage SO many situations in ED & public official that my ethics & external harm filters 👍🏾
The only way you beat the system that is not designed for you
be non-stop
overdeliver
be *that* good
persist
outcompete
never rest
never take anything for granted
take risks
be nimble
hone your skills
have several contingency plans
be self sufficient
There are a few things that do stop me: endometriosis, fibroids, migraines, or syncope sometimes do
A bullet felled Hamilton but did not stop Malala or Gabby Giffords. Am on radar of alt right. I understand that risk, this hatred I invoke in some:
I have not yet figured out how to be ethical to the level of my standards & navigate a world full of
Andrew Wakefield doctors
Epstein donors
Amy Cooper women on the board
Elizabeth Holmes as “successful” entrepreneurs
those who lack talent, ethics, or hard work can cheat & win
Tho did complete goals in 1st semester, taking a break & interrupt studies to space out & pace better. I do so much outside of class, while taking 2-3x normal course load. Will teach a course at MIT & I’ve been saving some of my🧵 to for formal writing.
If you want to understand a woman, look at her mother - at least true of me
My mom? As a new immigrant to America, when she encountered an unfair Eurocentric rule from her English Lit grad program? She wrote a paper & got the rule changed
Smart
Owned her power
Effective
Ethical
My mom and I are the same in core values but opposite externally. She uses maybe 1/100th of the words that I do and is intensely private. I am out climbing literal mountains while she prefers to stay in and read books and my dad’s #engineering journals.
My mom is an introvert who thinks 10x before speaking w/ surgical precision, educated by German nuns & British educational system
We are Urdu-speaking
Have ~ quarter million followers on #LinkedIn & use that space to speak truth to power. Use the power of my voice including on sexual harassment vs women.
In one #healthcare setting, the board hired marketers to cyberstalk employees. Creepy. #MedTwitter
When will we start to listen to the students paying substantial tuition?
Why do students have a superior understanding of #ethics and #traumainformed#education as compared to administrators who earn millions between salary & consulting gigs?
Keep in mind the phrase “shattering” the glass ceiling is a violent phrase associated with riots or “anti-social” activities. #womeninleadership conferences or books don’t prepare you for reality of how perceived/treated when “smashing” the patriarchy, especially as a WOC.
There are two ways past the barrier: 1-align with/serve patriarchy and have the door opened.
= mere optics of change while perpetuating status quo & structural inequity
Or
2-shatter it the glass ceiling. The latter will cause you to be a threat to the system & leadership
On rare occasions, the person opening the door past the barrier is truly seeking progress at scale rather than tokenizing you.
More often than not, your role when on the other side is to be token and sign off on perpetuation of inequity while providing the right look/optics.
“..treated like Cassandra where we get disregarded or sidelined, but our concerns about safety have turned out to be true,” Nehal, the Boston-based pediatrician, added. “There’s no joy in being right. I’d rather see good results that put patient safety first.”