People recommend a variety of strategies for (cyber)stalkers

Personally my fave: overload them with SO MUCH data their systems break down & THEY have a break down 😈

Maybe stop stalking me so your brain won’t have to try to follow mine

cuz, I promise you: you can’t keep up 🏃🏾‍♀️
Last semester, way I did group work: slow down by 70-80%
(apart from rare times w/ ppl w/ matched pace & skill)

Based on 360 eval feedback to:
slow down so others can keep up
&
lower my standards

Took 3x course load
did 2-3 Zoom at once
& still got all As (except one B+)
Thought experiment:

If I were a cis straight white man with my abilities, would I still be told to lower my standards?

If I were not advocating for system change & equity but if as a WOC I aligned with incentives of patriarchy, would my hard work translate to more rewards?
I do pretty well by working 3-5x as hard, SUPER high intensity
Have no special access
So overdeliver results

Is why am not too bothered by various stalkers I acquire
or ppl offended at my talk of “standards”

Got all this done
Know you can’t keep up
Will hurt your brain to try
Lots of typos in the self eval I shared. I was in a hurry. It intended was for me only.

I share it cuz you can see how #womenileadership advised:
lower standards
soften how communicate

With mind-body, learned now to self monitor physical symptoms to avoid getting sick..almost:
It’s why my “theme song” for this year was “Wicked”

self acknowledged “spin out” emotionally or “fly off the handle” =inward: intense migraine

I have had to manage SO many situations in ED & public official that my ethics & external harm filters 👍🏾

The only way you beat the system that is not designed for you

be non-stop

overdeliver
be *that* good
persist
outcompete
never rest
never take anything for granted
take risks
be nimble
hone your skills
have several contingency plans
be self sufficient

There are a few things that do stop me: endometriosis, fibroids, migraines, or syncope sometimes do

A bullet felled Hamilton but did not stop Malala or Gabby Giffords. Am on radar of alt right. I understand that risk, this hatred I invoke in some:

newyorker.com/magazine/2015/…
I have not yet figured out how to be ethical to the level of my standards & navigate a world full of
Andrew Wakefield doctors
Epstein donors
Amy Cooper women on the board
Elizabeth Holmes as “successful” entrepreneurs

those who lack talent, ethics, or hard work can cheat & win
Tho did complete goals in 1st semester, taking a break & interrupt studies to space out & pace better. I do so much outside of class, while taking 2-3x normal course load. Will teach a course at MIT & I’ve been saving some of my🧵 to for formal writing.

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1 Feb
If you want to understand a woman, look at her mother - at least true of me

My mom? As a new immigrant to America, when she encountered an unfair Eurocentric rule from her English Lit grad program? She wrote a paper & got the rule changed

Smart
Owned her power
Effective
Ethical
My mom and I are the same in core values but opposite externally. She uses maybe 1/100th of the words that I do and is intensely private. I am out climbing literal mountains while she prefers to stay in and read books and my dad’s #engineering journals.

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My mom is an introvert who thinks 10x before speaking w/ surgical precision, educated by German nuns & British educational system
We are Urdu-speaking

She is fearless in face of patriarchy

It runs in the family. Have strong, activist #womeninleadership role models in #Pakistan ImageImageImageImage
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1 Feb
Have ~ quarter million followers on #LinkedIn & use that space to speak truth to power. Use the power of my voice including on sexual harassment vs women.

In one #healthcare setting, the board hired marketers to cyberstalk employees. Creepy. #MedTwitter

linkedin.com/posts/usnehal_…
My current institution & my alma mater have taken money from #Epstein. #Science & #academia is full of creepy types in positions of power.

It is shocking those who woo a human trafficker donor also cross the line, hire ppl to #cyberstalk own staff? #MedTwitter #AcademicTwitter
When will we start to listen to the students paying substantial tuition?

Why do students have a superior understanding of #ethics and #traumainformed #education as compared to administrators who earn millions between salary & consulting gigs?

thetech.com/2019/10/23/set…
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31 Jan
Keep in mind the phrase “shattering” the glass ceiling is a violent phrase associated with riots or “anti-social” activities. #womeninleadership conferences or books don’t prepare you for reality of how perceived/treated when “smashing” the patriarchy, especially as a WOC.
There are two ways past the barrier: 1-align with/serve patriarchy and have the door opened.
= mere optics of change while perpetuating status quo & structural inequity
Or
2-shatter it the glass ceiling. The latter will cause you to be a threat to the system & leadership
On rare occasions, the person opening the door past the barrier is truly seeking progress at scale rather than tokenizing you.

More often than not, your role when on the other side is to be token and sign off on perpetuation of inequity while providing the right look/optics.
Read 21 tweets
31 Jan
It pains me to say this, it seems like this can never be a true statement...

...but...

I think I have too much dessert.

This was delivered to my building lobby today.
I still have half of this tiramisu.
Anyone who guesses what the occasion is within 3 tries gets a slice delivered to them, socially distanced

(Am that confident you can’t guess LOL - it’s a bit if a gag gift but I mean a lot of ppl did say “congrats” on this happening)
Read 5 tweets
31 Jan
The thing with people who are unethical, lack standards, rely on intimidation or manipulation, manufacture facts, etc...

...when they are in a position of power, yes, have to navigate carefully

..but once they are out of that job?

Let facts speak for selves.
Fauci is wise.
If an ethics violation, there is no need to trade screenshots in Twitter court for vigilante justice

Report the ethics violation. Like is happening after the #insurrection

Raising awareness to allow others to come forward, *is* useful tho

kaine.senate.gov/press-releases…
If a legislator elected by a party or affiliated with a party, can take more risks in some ways. Your constituents often want to see action.

An appointed official like Fauci wants to keep his position across administrations: better to choose discretion and/or wordsmithing.
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30 Jan
This 👇🏾👇🏻👇🏿

Abuse is towards many groups:
Children, elderly, disabled, neurodiverse, pregnant, women, LGBTQ, those on visas, employees, students/trainees, etc

It has been my job for ~15 years to spot it & be mandated reporter. We all must stay alert
Listen. Observe. Question.
Most people are too
goal oriented
distracted
self absorbed

to see what is in plain sight
Also, many who do see are afraid to speak up. Be the “Cassandra”

“A lot of clinicians have been treated like Cassandra where we get disregarded or sidelined..” -me

marketwatch.com/story/hospital…
Rest of quote:

“..treated like Cassandra where we get disregarded or sidelined, but our concerns about safety have turned out to be true,” Nehal, the Boston-based pediatrician, added. “There’s no joy in being right. I’d rather see good results that put patient safety first.”
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