“And it affected me until now.”
First of all, thank you for sharing this with us. We are humbled by your courage and your strength to want give advice to parents out there. Guys, if ada kesempatan, share this to your parents and group2 whatsapp family korang.
First of all, thank you for sharing this with us. We are humbled by your courage and your strength to want give advice to parents out there. Guys, if ada kesempatan, share this to your parents and group2 whatsapp family korang.
Pornography, masturbation and children. A thread.
Recently, kita ada tgk video of a child watching porn on a smart phone w the claimed to be mum right next to the child. Reading the replies on the tweet was heartbreaking. Ada yang make jokes out of it, ada yang accuse the child for being hooked to it. But ada jugak yg rational.
W/o us realizing, this hidden truth has been happening to so so many kids dari zaman dulu ke zaman sekarang. Skg lagi meriah org bercakap about it sebab kita ada social media. Thats why we hear about this everyday. But what can we get from all of this?
In MOST cases, kids don’t even know what pornography, sex, foreplay, humping (as mentioned in the convo above), french kiss, blowjob are. But the moment we see a child who watches porn, does a sexual gesture, says sexual words, we should be REALLY REALLY concerned. Like REALLY.
It’s either they’ve seen someone doing it in front of them, someone showing videos to them or in extreme cases, asking the child to act out the sexual act. Kids are sponges. They absorb. They imitate.
But. To remember. It is NOT the child’s fault.
But. To remember. It is NOT the child’s fault.
To remember. It is NOT the child’s fault. It is NEVER the child’s fault. Kids are curious creatures. So parents gotta catch up with their kids. Before kids learn by themselves about what sex is, you introduce it to them responsibly.
And if terlepas, anak you memang dah tertengok pornography. Talk to them. Dont just push it under the carpet and act like nothing ever happened. Discuss it w them and explain it to them on what sex is, ask them how did they start watching porn in the first place.
And never ever make the child feel like it was his or her fault. Many cases that we’ve heard, this happens among siblings as well so where is our supervision on our children? Why is a brother watching sexual movies with a younger sibling?
We would like everyone to be more sensitive to things like this, so that the next time you see a child watching pornography, you gotta do more than just sharing it on twitter, shaming the child, make jokes out of it and get 150k RTs.
You’re supposed to be more alerted. Ask yourself, has this child been abused? Did someone show this to him? Did someone DO this to her?
Guys, we’ve been failing our kids for centuries! Dah dah lah tu continue perangai tak guna & not help them? Kau tak rasa gagal ke as an adult?
Guys, we’ve been failing our kids for centuries! Dah dah lah tu continue perangai tak guna & not help them? Kau tak rasa gagal ke as an adult?
This is scientifically proven. A child who has been abused will have really high tendency of being addicted to pornography, and end up doing sexual acts like masturbation and such.
Parental supervision is the most powerful tool to ensure our kids’ safety. And tolong lah, be careful when you have intercourse in your room, lock the flipping door. 3 times we’ve heard yesterday that children have seen their parents doing it. AND THEY BECOME CURIOUS!
As contradictory as it sounds, it’s true. A child who has been abused in any way could lead them into becoming prematurely sexually active. Which is sad. Extremely sad 😞 It’s their innocence being stripped away. They’re just children guys 😞 More precautions couldve been done.
Parents, before anything else have to be the ones who create the bridge to their children. So that your child finds comfort in YOU, their mum and dad. You should be the FIRST person they go to if something good or bad happens to them. Ni beranak je kerja tapi x pandai jaga anak.
Lessons to learn;
1. Not the child’s fault.
2. Parents, be more aware. Be more open. If dr awal kau x gain your child’s trust, jgn harap la dia akan cerita kat kau if dia kena abuse.
3. Community, dont be douchebags and start working towards actually helping the child to heal.
1. Not the child’s fault.
2. Parents, be more aware. Be more open. If dr awal kau x gain your child’s trust, jgn harap la dia akan cerita kat kau if dia kena abuse.
3. Community, dont be douchebags and start working towards actually helping the child to heal.
It’s okay if you didnt know. We are all learning. We are all in one process. But just dont be complacent. Take extra steps to be more informed. Semua nak jadi parents kan nanti?
