Thread by @katelovesneuro

Lets examine for a minute the intent of abusers, the person whose been targeted (victimized) and the anatomy of an apology.

1) T/abuser publically targets some1 w/vile hateful language w/a clear intent2 do psychological/emotional damage & harm2 their intended victim.

2) The person being continuously harassed & victimized, doesnt follow the script and is able to successfully foil the attack. T/abuser again doubles down on ugly vile harassment while inciting her "gang" to follow suit, but the targeted person calls her out again.

4) Does a foiled attack by an abuser mean no crime or abuse has taken place? No, t/courtsR pretty clear on that ie, failed robbery, failed attempt@ murder&failed harassment(meaning it clearly occured but was fought off)still gets Utime b/c URstill responsible 4UR actions & intent

5) (Back 2 Ingram)An apology delivered b/c t/abuser is 'losing face' 4their actions, in a manipulative attempt 2gain back support by once again targeting t/victim via DEMANDING t/abusers INSINCERE apologyB accepted &if not t/victim is then accused of being a bully!

6) This is known as a slick attempt 2become t/victim of t/victim. Its an attempt2 turn t/tables against t/ person by victimizing them again. T/entire publically delivered "APOLOGY," is designed2 pressure t/victim in2 accepting t/abuse, ie, t/apology becomes t/means 2shut them up

7) An apology that does not include: a)the recognition that you were wrong, b) the acknowledgment that you in fact intended to do harm (if you did and she did) 2the person targeted, c) the sincere expression of regret, d) t/commitment 2undo t/harm done by DOING THINGS DIFFERENTLY

& e) by making amends2 the person/people you've harmed/attempted 2harm(amends means setting things right, its not by words U do this but by actions).Any apology WITHOUT those elements is a manipulation, an attempt by t/abuser2 carry on "business as usual" only this time slicker

8) This is a well know pattern & dynamic that is embedded across ALL cycles of abuse. Usually its hidden & its not well explained. Sociopaths (criminals wife beaters etc) use this method ALL. THE. TIME.
9) Is the victim required to accept an abusers apology? NO, NOT EVER.

10) Does t/abuser then get2 use that against the victim (PAY ATTENTION HERE, THIS IS THE TELL) NO & a sincerely apologetic abuser committed2 change understands that & doesn't push b/c its not t/job of t/person victimized 2make t/abuser feel better. An INSINCERE SOCIOPATH ABUSER

Will become indignant, self-righteous, belligerent &play t/victim by insisting t/person theyve victimized is now a bully 4 not making them fell better (see its all about them- BINGO). The way society works this happens all to often and abusers compound the abuse in this manner.

11) Ingram is clearly an abuser and has been for years.
12) not only was @davidhogg111 correct in that Ingrams apology was wholly devoid of sincerity & there4 an attempt 2re-target him &all parkland survivors but as the person who'd been harassed/targeted, hes NOT OBLIGATED

to do so on command/by demand by the person targeting him. As hes rightly perceived, Ingrams lipservice "self involved attempt 2avoid losing money/popularity" apology had nothing2 do w/him nor regret4 what shed done as her apology contained none of t/elements of a sincere apology

13)Anyone who carrys on w/the narrative that he/any of t/Parkland survivors should accept an insincere apology 4m an abuser whose attempting, once again 2passive aggressively target/harass these young adults is revealing themselves enablers of abuse& harassment plain& simple
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