1. We understand people perceive love in different ways and if a relationship will be built effectively, particular attention must be given to this. You must be sensitive to your spouse’s difference and always take this into consideration. #LoveandMarriage
2. Gary Chapman in his Book describes it as the Five Love Languages. Some people feel loved when they are physically touched, others prefer words of affirmation, some others like gifts and the size does not matter because it’s their love language. #LoveandMarriage
3. Others appreciate quality time; they want you to drop everything and focus on them while some people feel loved when tasks are done for them; this is known as acts of service. #LoveandMarriage
4. It is important when we come into a relationship that we find out what the other person’s love language is & speak the language. We should apply it to God, because our love for God can overflow to people around us. (1st John 3:16) #LoveandMarriage
5. It’s time to ask your spouse what their love language is. In fact, the real question you need to ask is “How do you want me to love you?’’ You have to try to see things from the other person’s eyes. #LoveandMarriage
6. Our default means of communicating love is our own love language and this would be fine if both spouses have the same love language. In the event that our love languages are different, there will be a mismatch which leads to misunderstandings. #LoveandMarriage
7. Gender differences also affects the way we perceive love. The way a man perceives love is different from the way a woman perceives love. Sometimes your spouse is communicating love but you have been love deaf. #LoveandMarriage
8. Men and women score acts of love differently. However, there are always exceptions. With a man, the bigger or more dramatic, the more points you score. With a woman. Big or small, your gestures score 1 point each. #LoveandMarriage
9. A woman may weigh every act equally hence the need to constantly make kind gestures, big or small so she feels loved. A text message or a rose flower every now and then will communicate to her that she was on your mind in the course of your busy day. #LoveandMarriage
10. Communication is the food of love. It is the key to intimacy. Temperaments and Personality differences also affects the way we communicate love. The way introverts communicate is different from the way extroverts communicate. #LoveandMarriage
11. Communication with an extrovert has to be cheerful while communication with an introvert has to be thoughtful. #LoveandMarriage
12. Sex helps intimacy in marriage. It works differently for men than for women, with exceptions. Their desires are expressed differently. Men are visually stimulated, so help your man, when a man is well fed at home he is not likely to be interested in snacks. #LoveandMarriage
13. A woman is emotional & needs to feel cared for. Men should not show care 5 minutes before they want action, for women the desire is built up from various steps. Someone said that sex begins in the kitchen; it begins with helping to wash the dishes. #LoveandMarriage
14. Learning to love someone is like learning a new language. It takes humility and practice. Humility makes a successful marriage possible. #LoveandMarriage
15. The text in Philippians 2:3-4 points out two things that are important. This two things will destroy relationships and marriages. First; Selfishness, not paying attention to the other persons needs and placing it above yours. #LoveandMarriage
16. The other is Pride. When you start to compete with your mate and considering them less important than you, there is a problem. You were not called into competition with your spouse, you were called into completion. #LoveandMarriage
17. Look out for the interest of the other person. The more you meet your spouses needs, the more fulfilment, peace and joy you will enjoy in your marriage. #LoveandMarriage
18. You have no excuse not to be a loving person. The person who does you wrong has started a cycle, you don’t have to complete it. Sow forgiveness and kindness in your marriage and you will reap it. Matt. 7:12, Luke 6:35-38. #LoveandMarriage
19. God’s ways are not man’s ways. If you do it the way God has asked us to, you will enjoy a peaceful marriage. #LoveandMarriage
20. To the one that chooses to be caring, kind considerate and forgiving, I prophesy that your lifting will be supernatural, God will produce testimonies in your life, obstacles will produce miracles, the power of God will sustain you in Jesus’ name. #LoveandMarriage
