I think people think there are like ten trolls or obtuse questions lobbed at you #onhere. And that's true at maybe a couple hundred or thousand followers. Somewhere north of 50k the scale changes dramatically. It's pretty human for that to be overwhelming.
It's probably unrealistic to ask or want people to police themselves a bit. But it's not just being mean or rude. None of us is set up for thousands of trolls, sealions, repetitive questions. It's one of the shortcomings of networked media.
I will get people like "oh you respond to all the trolls!", and I'm like honey I respond to maybe fewer than 1% of the trolling I receive.
"oh just IGNORE it." have you ever tried to if ire three screaming toddlers? Imagine 20k. Exasperation is as nice a response as we can probably reasonably expect.
People are just anxious that they will get caught in the clapback dragnet one day. But that's how norms work.
Anyway, anything said after "why don't you just... " is always, always loaded with a set of mostly unexamined biases, assumptions and beliefs. And I say that as someone who likes to say that a lot. lol That's partly how I know.
And that is true both when the clause is explicitly or implicitly stated.
That is also why "fuck you" is a perfectly reasonable response to "why don't you just". I don't make the rules.
