Thread by @darkNtwisty99

In about a half hour (till the day not the hour) I will turn 28.
10 years ago, I was pregnant with my first, I'd miscarried once already, was in an abusive and dead end relationship. 10 years ago, I graduated high school with a bilingual (French/English) diploma while living at a

Friends house (a place I was abused by her dad)... this only 5 years after being victim of a full out sexual assault that changed my life that this man knew of.
10 years ago I refused post secondary to adopt a life of self inflicted poverty and hardness. 10 years ago, I refused

To go back home. 10 years ago, I was about to be "laid off" for being a pregnant prep cook.
10 years ago, I was between apartments because my bf at the time (8 years older than me, abusive to me at 17) couldn't pay the bills or keep any priority other than his penis straight.

10 years ago hated myself, everything about me, what I was doing for my daughter...or rather lack thereof.... I hated my life and where it was headed. I hated the town i lived in. I was always angry. We were always angry, yelling, screaming.

But 6 years ago, I made decisions that would change my life for ever better!
6 years ago, I left him, moved back "home" with my daughter, registered for nursing school and moved to a 2 bedroom apartment in a bigger city, put my girl in preschool and went to college.

Couldn't have done it without the help and support of:
Mom and dad
1 of my best friends at the time and still now
OW provided by the office in the town I so wanted to leave
My college profs
The guy I ended up marrying
His family
My family
A few friends
Character I had built

6 years ago, I started on a brand new path, in a brand new place, with brand new goals and inspiration!
I did not finish the nursing program. Anxiety and other conflicts showed me that nursing wasnt my path.
But it was from lost time, effort, knowledge or student debt.

*was not lost time

(Cracked screen... excuse typos)

I transferred my credits from nursing to business and decided to go from there. Business suited me much better.
Rwd: March 24, 2009 my daughter was born - she wasn't due till may 17th. 8 wks early. Hardest time of my life!
This is her about a month after due date.

Started a small construction business with the help of my husband (fiance at the time... framer then) 4 years ago. In June 2014, actually. We were married a month later ( engaged for a year and a half) in July.

We worked really hard at the building the company... and our family!
In May of 2016 we had our first, my second daughter and by the end of that year had secured two contracts that would change the business and our lives!

Many contracts and achievements later, we are more planning builds of our own, and have a third child!

I don't say any of it to brag! None of it was easy nor was anything ever handed to us!
My husband has supported me through many panic and anxiety attacks. We have struggled as often as we have not, but we have learned and worked hard!
We used resources at our disposal

When we need them and qualified. We've also given back.
Our families have helped shaped us into who we are! Our experiences helped build character and give new, different, sometimes uncomfortable perspectives .

Never EVER be afraid to ask for help when trying to better your lives or those of the ones you love! Don't be angry at the answer. Ask why if you are denied help.
1 important thing that I learned is that there is always a common denominator in every problem.

You? Your significant other? Your attitude? Your friends? Lack of goals, motivation, self discipline and overall respect (who ever that may be if it applies).
A mind isn't always rational and a heart isn't always practical. The gut, however, tends to be a relatively happy

Balance of both feelings and, if you can put both brain and heart in check, the gut feeling will be able typ be heard over all other squeaky loud white noises!
Learn to put others judgment and opinion of you or your actions into perspective.
What comes from nothing means nothing

The only person who can ever make or break you, is YOU!
Learn to learn! From everything and everyone! Learn to empower yourself, because, at the end of the day, only you can actually empower yourself! People can help and support you, but only you can do for you!!

The only person who can make you happy is you! You need to love you. You need to know that, if you are motivated enough and actually know what you want, that you can find and get the resources and supports that you need to accomplish your goals. Only you can validate you!

Love you all, Tweeple!
Nighty night!
If I inspired even 1 person with any of this, my goal for this evening has been met!!!
Much Love!