Activate the sensual pleasures in your every day life. Sensuality does not have to lead to or involve sex at all. It is a way to engage and enliven your basic connection to the world around you. Try it. #TheVillageAuntieMovement
It is the feel of chiffon against your cheek as you wrap your khimar. The light touch of your hair when it grazes your ears. The feel of your skin as soap glides down your leg. Sensual pleasures can be small or large. The key is to stop and acknowledge them.
Simple acts like taking time to massage your skin after bath, listening to your favorite sounds, eating your favorite foods slowly, savoring every bite. These are things that help us to connect with ourselves and the world around us. Sensuality is natural and free.
A key to being sexy is knowing yourself, knowing what you like. You gain that knowledge by paying attention to that which excites, intrigues, and relaxes you. It’s not rocket science. Sexy is as sexy does/thinks/feels.
A woman who can engage her senses on a deeper level is also able to unlock a deep and intimate connection sexually. She can experience the fullness of the sexual experience because feeling and sensing deeply has become her norm. #TheVillageAuntieMovement
What do you like to feel? Hear? See? Smell? Do more of THAT every day. Every single day you should give yourself permission to experience pleasure. Don’t leave it up to others to turn you ‘on’. Do what YOU love.
Burn the candle you like. Wear the silk nightgown, even if you’re single. Eat the dessert. Stop saving special things for special days. Your life is THE occasion. Celebrate yourself. Allah gave you breath. Enjoy.
For single sisters, this is especially useful because knowing what you enjoy helps you to better articulate that need/desire to a future spouse. Go in knowing what you need to wake up your mind and body. And don’t settle for less than what you want and need.
For married sisters, it can be harder to incorporate sensuality. It seems counterintuitive, but marriage can cause us to dumb down our senses. We become focused on what our spouses want and rush to fill that need. What about you, sis? #TheVillageAuntieMovement
It’s easy to get into a rut in relationships. You can become so familiar with your husband such that you can almost script exactly what a sexual encounter is like. That gets old. And routine sex can be a death knell for an otherwise healthy marriage.
Turn things around by remembering the things that used to excite you during the courting phase. What scents, textures, and sounds take you back to those days of anticipation? Recreate those images and feelings. And then amplify them. You can indulge now. Have fun.
Remind him what you like. Do what you like. Let him catch you in the act of loving yourself (not talking about masturbation here). When he sees you indulging yourself, he may be led to follow suit. And if not? That’s okay too. Do it for YOU.
Anyway...just something on my mind and wanted to share. I gave up on saving my special things. Every day is a chance to indulge. Maintain balance but don’t deny yourselves, sisters. You’re worth it.
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