I was honestly bewildered at this.
“Um… who is this?” I asked.
And then he started to apologize.
He was about to hang up. I looked at the pre-fast meal I’d just prepared for Yom Kippur. I asked him if he knew that he’d called me on a special day.
(I think the call was inspired by the 9/11 attacks, which had happened recently & had left us all feeling that life was short.)
"So of course you’re forgiven, and I’m very glad you called.”
It's not easy, but it's possible.